Being married to the son Mom is not always a bad thing. A man who is close to his mother is not the boy of a mother in a negative way. A man who is attached to his mother at the hip, however, may be more of a problem. This is particularly the case, it does not function without it. Alternatively, if he consults his mother on the personal and intimate parts of your wedding
Here are four ways you can handle the boy husband of a mother :.
1. Do not give in to his demands
Your man could use his mother catering to all their needs and wants, but that does not mean you must as well. It is important that you set limits and let him know that you will not behave like his mother. It can act as a boy with his mother all he wants, but when he's with you, he should act like a man who can take care of himself.
may use manipulation on you to get his way, so you need to be strong when he accuses you of not loving her and wanting what is best for him.
he probably did not mean the things he said, but tell them to get what he wants. If you give in, it will continue to use manipulation to get his way.
2. Do not agree to move into his house
If the son of a mother, it is not a good idea to move in his home. Chances are their relationship as mother and son come before your relationship with him. It will most likely side with his mother on all subjects not to cross her. It can even go to his mother when the two of you have a disagreement. While it can do these things even if you live outside of his house, the distance will help some. You do not want to feel like the third wheel when you live with your spouse.
If you can not pay both a place of your own then you should not have got married again. If you are in financial straights and his parents offered to help you by letting you move, make sure that there is an end date in mind. If you do save for your own home, be aware that you risk permanent damage to your marriage.
3. Avoid confront his mother
It is not your place to go to your brother-in-law and ask him to back off. If you want to talk to anyone about the situation, it is your husband that you need to talk. Do not come from a place of anger, however. When you approach the subject, be sensible and say that you feel a little jealous and want more time alone with him. Remind her that you like her mother and does not bother to go to his house for dinner once a month, but it should not be coming to all your activities and dates just because it is lonely or has poor boundaries. Explain that you do not want it out of your life, but you both need time to connect and grow as a couple.
4. Do not leave her mother to do your life choices
There is one thing for your mother-in right to make choices, if c is what he is comfortable with. It could choose his clothes, his food and even his career. If he is unable to make these decisions without his input, it might be something to consider trying to iron out. You do not want her mother to become a decision maker on the choices you make as an individual or as a couple. Your mother-in-law should not be part of your personal decisions about finances, career paths, parenting or holidays unless you ask directly for entry. You should not include it in your marital disagreements.
If your spouse is too attached to his mother, it is important to see how it damages your marriage. You probably ignored red flags about that when dating, so if you now see in your marriage, you need to address sooner rather than later. If you try to communicate and solve problems around that does not move things in the right direction, professional help is probably in order.
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