As a woman, you are most likely a nurturer-born, and when you have been married for a while, it becomes easy to pick up on the emotions of your husband. You also learn to recognize when he is in trouble and need to feel validated. However, your instinct of feeding might appear as native and demeaning if you're not careful.
Here are five ways that you can provide validation of your husband during difficult times without condescending.
1. Look for opportunities to show her how much faith you have in him.
When men fight, they often experience feelings of not being manly enough, strong enough or capable enough to conquer their current challenge. As a woman, your natural instinct is to help carry the weight. While your spouse does not need to know he has a reliable partner who is not afraid to roll up his sleeves from time to time, he also need to believe that you have faith in his ability to cope adversity. Before you decide, it needs your help and you have to take charge, take a step back; Let him know that you back and you know he is stronger than the circumstances that try to make him fall.
2. Find moments that publicly praise him.
When you validate your husband in a public way, it does not need to be a great gesture. The next time you're on the phone with a friend and talk to your spouse, make a point when your husband is listening to boast about how great, strong and competent you think it is. When weaknesses are rising to the surface, what you say about him is just as important as what you say, so make sure you say is positive.
3. Make him confident enough to give him space.
When your spouse is in trouble, you may notice that it seems to remove or move the focus for a time. Make him confident enough to give him space. Even if you can know all the details of what happens, resist the urge to get heavily involved in its challenges when it's clear he needs to work on himself.
4. Make sure that you are respectful of him.
It has been said that the needs of a woman love a relationship, but a man needs respect. As a woman, you probably know that the time you act more unlovable are usually when you most need to feel loved and supported. Sometimes your husband will act and become uncomfortable, which could be an indication that he does not feel respected. This could also be a good time for you to remind them why you look at him so much.
5. Be there for him physically.
According to the temperament of your husband, a difficult period could lead to address the most for validation sex, or it could make him withdraw sexually for a while. Be sensitive to the signals it gives you. Remember, even when he withdraws sexually, he still needs to feel desirable. Seek opportunities to remind him how it makes you want and how you are excited that he has chosen you.
As different as men and women, navigate challenges in your relationship can be as simple as taking a step back and remember the basic needs of your husband. You must not be over-the-top or focused on the challenges in hand; you simply need to remember to be his biggest cheerleader, regardless of the season of your wedding is.
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