Yes, I believe in marriage. But I also know the reality of some couples is that they are at the end of the line in their relationship.
Marriage can be a blessing, but marriage can also break your heart ... especially if you think you've reached the end of the road. If you think it's too late to save your marriage, it is necessary to discern whether your relationship is in a bad or your marriage is so toxic that it really is time to end it.
Although there are many people who believe that the only deal breaker in a marriage is physical violence, I believe that some marriages should not only survive, especially when there is infidelity serial and / or psychological or physical violence. This type of unhealthy, the incompatible marriage is unrecoverable and must end.
Although the reality is that divorce is difficult for many, it is more difficult, more painful, and actually dangerous to live disconnected and disengaged emotionally abuse of a spouse.
There are no easy path to that decision.
The journey through decoupling is different for each individual. Listen to your inner voice and do not let the fear of the unknown keep you in a troubled marriage
This is a difficult and heavy choice to leave the ship and end your marriage, but when you fight a losing battle or feel trapped and helpless in a marriage that could ultimately hurt you, do not wait for a sign from heaven to tell you to stay or leave.
You know in your gut when it is time to leave a bad relationship. You need to make an informed decision and protect yourself and your children. Ask yourself what is still good in your marriage and what is not. Professional counseling can help you make it through this painful journey of a dysfunctional marriage
reasons not to fight to save your marriage :.
In no particular order, here are the behaviors that can often get worse and ultimately can lead to divorce.
- not give and take, not compromise.
- The two of you have different goals or look at life differently.
- repeated questions.
- overspending.
- continuous lies, untrustworthy.
- Very control of the money, friends, etc.
- Play the blame.
- Lack of empathy.
- Therefore, a sense of responsibility.
- sexless marriage.
- No affection or intimacy.
- Serial unfaithfulness.
- does not believe in monogamy.
- bigamy or other criminal behavior.
- Do excuses for mistakes, no remorse or regret.
- I do not want to try to save the marriage.
- The denial of dependence, will not seek help.
- abusive.
- The disrespectful, condescending. [1945030priorités] Shifting such as whether or not to have children
More advice about when it's okay to say it's over :.
"If someone near each side of the -we will or-do-we-have-children fence, you can work through it. But if not, and having a child is a life goal of yours, you may be looking at the end of your marriage, "says Alisa Bowman
Ronnie Tyler :." We believe that you should have successful relationships, not just relationships that are simply to survive. and while every relationship goes through its testing, there is a big difference between a curse and a 5, 10, or period of suffering arguing 20 years, fighting and just everything about the malfunction. "
Source: Ronnie Tyler." 10 reasons why you need to get out of a bad marriage "Babble.com 2013.
Jill P. Weber :." When there.. no resolution to chronic marital distress, the two people in the union live in a state of fight or flight, they may have trouble sleeping, eating healthy, trouble the short-term memory, weight gain, not not go to the doctor and fail to eat emotionally. their cup is so full between work, children and chronic negative emotions they experience, there is no place for self-care . negative relationships take toll on physical health should not be underestimated There is even research to suggest that chronically negative or abusive relationships can shorten the life "
Source: Jill P. Weber .. PhD "Top 5 reasons why divorce is an option." HuffingtonPost.com. 22/12/2014.
CNN reported in 2014 that researchers "found that a bad marriage causes more harm to the heart than a good marriage provides positive benefits to cardiovascular health." The study was funded by the National Institute of Aging and analyzed data from more than 1,000 married men and women over a period of five years.