It is obvious to you that your spouse needs to see a doctor. But your husband or wife, it is not so obvious or they simply refuse to go. It is very frustrating and worrying when a spouse has no motivation to take care of his health needs. It may also begin to have a very negative impact on your marriage.
It is more common for women to struggle with this problem. Men are particularly stubborn about seeing doctors. Maybe they feel invincible or that it is a sign of weakness to see the doctor. Women are also more accustomed to seeing doctors regularly, such as OB / GYN. Men often end up regretting not having given their women in this regard.
reasons people refuse to see a doctor or seek help
- Streamlined that the problem will disappear
- The fear of what the doctor will tell
- belief that this is not the right time to be sick
- too busy
- Dislike for all medical experience
- overpriced medical care
- spending too much time in the waiting room
- Embarrassment about the disease or medical condition
- Concern to be considered low
- fear of painful medical procedures
- Bad experience with a particular doctor or health facility medical procedure
- denial about the current health status
this is what you can do (and what you should not do) when your spouse refuses to get the necessary medical or psychological help.
what you should say and do
- Tell your spouse that you are worried. Talk to him about the fear you feel about this situation.
- Talk to your spouse about your feelings related to the impact of this refusal of help or treatment has on you.
- Accept your role as spouse and not as the mother of your spouse. Your spouse is an adult and able to make personal health decisions.
- Tell your spouse that you want him / her to see a doctor because of your love. You can also offer to go with him / her.
- Ask if you can set up an appointment for your spouse to see a doctor.
- If you believe that the refusal of your spouse to seek medical or psychological care is life threatening, then you need to get professional help to get your spouse assistance is needed.
- consider seeing a counselor on your own to help deal with your mixed feelings. It is important that you take care of yourself and accept your own feelings of frustration, anger, etc.
What you should not do or say
- not to continue to nag.
- not put up an appointment with a doctor without agreement.
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not to continue to have endless arguments on this issue. [1945022votreconjoint]
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not manipulate your spouse for help.
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not to threaten to leave the marriage (unless you really mean).
A psychological problem can cause significant distress on a wedding. This is often more delicate than the spouse may fail to understand the problem. Both psychological and untreated medical problems may begin to influence the system of the entire family. If one spouse still refuses to get help, maybe from counseling together can be a productive bridge to help your spouse get their own personal assistance.
If your spouse still refuses to see a doctor, there is not much you can do other than to share your feelings of anxiety, fear and love. However, it all comes down to personal responsibility. Unfortunately, there may not be much you can do. A spouse does not need help will inadvertently send a message to their spouse that he or she is not enough important to do.
For more information on the treatment of health issues in your marriage, visit the health concerns and Healthy Living section of this site.
* Updated article by Marni Feuerman
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