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Wednesday, September 21, 2016
When Giving a surprise Make sure it is on your spouse and not you
When Giving a surprise Make sure it is on your spouse and not you -
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By Sheri Stritof
Marriage Expert
By Sheri Stritof
Everyone loves a surprise! The idea of a wonderful, pleasant surprise is to do or give something unexpectedly. A very big surprise will amaze and surprise your spouse. Here are some tips on how to surprise your spouse.
Choose an ordinary day to surprise your spouse. always choosing special days like birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc. diminishes the sense of surprise.
Make sure that the surprise is about your spouse and not for you. not to take a weekend to a place you like, but your spouse could care less about. Even if you do not enjoy anything like the opera or basketball, or go to a museum, or a day of shopping or fishing or working in the garden, if that is what your spouse likes to do the surprise will be your willingness to share this activity with your partner. Be prepared to go outside your comfort zone.
Do not handle your spouse. Make a surprise gift is something your spouse wants, not something you want. Do not give a cookbook if you want your mate to cook more. Do not give a lawnmower to your husband if you want the lawn mowed more often. Do not give your wife sexy lingerie if you want more sex.
Listen to your spouse. If you want your spouse to be pleasantly surprised, note the type of things loved or appreciated by your spouse. Be aware of what he / she stops to look in stores or mentions in conversations.
Do not spend money you do not have it on surprise. Go into debt is not a pleasant surprise.
If you plan a trip or overnight stay, do all the planning. not surprise your spouse with a weekend or night and wait for your partner to make arrangements for the child or pet care, work stoppage, dinner reservations, etc. really, really a surprise by putting in the effort to handle all the details, including ensuring that your plans will not interfere with plans already made by your spouse.
do not let a tight budget be an excuse not to surprise your spouse. Create a treasure hunt with a cheap gift or a coupon that the surprise at the end of the hunt. You can make a romantic dinner at home, a picnic for only two of you, or give a coupon for a free day responsibilities.
Do not surprise your spouse with a pet. Owning a pet should be a mutual decision.
Keep your single surprises. The more elaborate you make your surprise, the more things can go wrong. Do not surprising each other competitive event. travel and elaborate and expensive gifts should generally be planned together.
Try to create significant surprises. When you create a memory with a surprise, you also create hopefully a meaningful intimate moment.
