regarding the apology, many people have much to say about them. Companies excuses "of the offer." Situations "lead" to apologize. Celebrities and politicians sometimes excuses "emission". Some people "demand" an apology while others "give" apologize
My perspective on apologies :.
- If you have an idea that you have to your spouse apologize, do not put it off. Apologize immediately.
What is an apology?
Apologies in your marriage is more than saying "I'm sorry." An apology is an attempt to admit you made a mistake, hurt someone's feelings, do something really stupid, a bad decision, etc. When you apologize, you accept responsibility. I do not think trying to justify or rationalize the error is really an apology.Why apologize people
Some people apologize because they just want to get out of the difficulty they are or because they want to present a benevolent image and repentant other. by focusing on your own needs when you apologize is not really excuses.others excuses because they want to put the past behind them and start again.
Many excuses people because they are really sorry for what happened, want to accept responsibility for their actions, and want to make amends. Those are good reasons.
Hopefully you want to apologize to your spouse because you want to help alleviate and ultimately end the suffering and the pain you have caused, because you love your spouse, and because you want do what you can ensure that your marriage is on solid ground. These are the best reasons to apologize.
How to Apologize
We believe that an apology between a husband and wife should be private. When you apologize to your spouse, your apology to be genuine and sincere. Use "I" in your excuses and do not try to put all the responsibility for your behavior on your spouse.While humor may have worked for David Letterman, do not try to be funny for excuses. Keep your apology on target. Do not ramble like Mark Sanford.
excuse in the form of a letter is acceptable, if possible, you must be present when the letter is read by your spouse. Express your shame, regret, sadness, guilt, etc. You must also specify what you are willing to do to make things right again.
must focus on your determination not to make the same mistake. Whatever you decide to make restitution, make sure that it is useful and something you'll do. Do not make promises you will not or can not keep.
Finally, you need to ask forgiveness. Do not push your spouse for an immediate response. Your spouse may need some time to respond.
Oh, do not forget to forgive you.
1 comments:
I totally agree!
ReplyTo apologize doesn't mean just to say sorry.
You must repent and to make conclusions.
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