You each make decisions throughout the day, every day. Some decisions are taken automatically and without much thought, such as brushing teeth in the morning.
additional decisions as a matter of course, like deciding what to make for dinner. Other decisions may be forced on you in difficult times and stressed.
Most decisions have short impact on your life. Other decisions may have a more lasting impact. As a married couple, you need to talk about how you will make decisions.
What are the important decisions?
Obviously, you each make many decisions on your own. Fortunately, you are not decide as a couple when cutting your hair or what color socks you will wear.What do you consider important decisions is one of the first decisions you need to make in your marriage. Most couples consider the following decisions to be the major decisions that require discussion and agreement.
- When the two of you to live.
- How many children you will have.
- Parenting styles.
- How you spend and save money.
- The amount of free time you will spend together.
- household chores.
- decisions crisis.
- future plans.
once you have agreed that the decisions you want to do together, talk about how you will handle two decisions together.
For example, speaking of finances, many couples put an amount of money they feel is the upper limit of expenditure individually. Anything either of you wants to buy above this amount must be discussed and be a mutual decision.
Sharing responsibility for decision making
If any of you take a dominant role and waiting to make all the important decisions in your marriage, your marriage will suffer."decisions should be a shared responsibility. Studies have shown that people unhappy in a marriage are often those who are responsible to take decisions alone. In the most successful marriages, the decision is a shared activity. "" another feature of a successful marriage is that both partners are genuinely concerned about the wishes and personal preferences of the other. They are both ready to go more than half to reach mutually satisfactory compromise. decisions or compromises that are made are made voluntarily instead of against-heart. "
" split decision means that neither spouse must be "bad" or "lost." the two share the results. There is no resentment over attitudes "was right" and "that was wrong" It is the mutual culture and by sharing in the
Source "our decisions".. Extension Service of Mississippi State University