Many myths surrounding the marriage can give you unrealistic expectations. The disappointment is sure to come if you are in search of Cinderella as the year of the fairy tale wedding happily ever-after after year. It's easy to get caught up in believing such things when we look around us in books, movies and television. Therefore, a frank discussion of the myths that are harmful to your marriage is in order!
Media Myths From
If you watch television late at night, enjoy classic movies, listening to love songs, or read romantic novels, then you can have a wedding image never, never.
do you remember or have you watched Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet, Bewitched, I love Lucy, The Honeymooners, The Donna Reed Show, Lassie and Full House ? What Disney fairy tales like Cinderella or Snow White ? And then we have films such as T The Notebook, Officer and a Gentleman and Pretty Woman.
reflect on the fact that almost all of these households were the traditional family of mom, dad, kids.
They seem to have no real problems, because there is no story lines about previous marriages, step children, lack sex, chores, physical abuse, infidelity, alcohol problems, drugs, dropping out, policy discussions, civil disobedience, unemployment, serious economic problems, and threats or even divorce thoughts. The father was the breadwinner and the mother made bread. Until All in the Family came along, plots seemed to focus on little white lies, mischief and misunderstanding.
Films may reflect more serious themes, but we can all easily taken in "love conquers all" theme in movies and popular romantic novels. Couples walking into the sunset, no matter what difficulties they encountered. Passion is never done by difficult life circumstances.
The story lines can make you believe that life is still wonderful - that all your needs can and should be performed by your spouse, children are the icing on the cake, the marriage will solve all your problems, and you'll live happily ever
marriage Myths and facts
- MYTH :. Loneliness Myth that marriage will end your loneliness.
- REALITY :. Many married people are still very lonely
- MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy makes you think that being married makes you complete human beings
- REALITY :. a pair complement each other, not complete another. (Sorry, Jerry MaGuire !)
- MYTH :. Marriage is for everyone
- REALITY There are many single people who are extremely happy.
- MYTH: Monogamy Myth makes you believe that you are the only couple that treats infidelity or that it only happens to bad people or low
- REALITY : infidelity happens to many couples
- MYTH: .. Romance is alive in a good marriage
- REALITY : Almost all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The problems and challenges of everyday married life can often fog up romantic feelings. This is when the decision to love is important
- MYTH: .. Marriage makes people happy
- REALITY : You can not expect your spouse to be your only source of happiness. Your personal happiness must come from within you. Marriage can complete your own individual happiness, but it can not be the main source
- MYTH :. You will have no major problems if you really love each other.
- REALITY : A good marriage does not occur. He must feed, openness and commitment and a lot of communication
- MYTH: .. My spouse should know my needs without my say
- REALITY : just because you're married does not mean that you can read minds. You still have to tell your spouse what your needs are
- MYTH :. Conflict means a lack of love
- REALITY [: Conflict happens in every marriage. The struggle against right and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.
Some of the TV shows like Mad About You, Home Improvement, To have and to hold, The Cosby Show, Dharma & Greg, and Everybody Loves Raymond reflect these values and show that marriages can survive the conflict, disappointment and problems.
Your marriage needs many qualities to be successful and sustainable long. Some of these features are the love, support, tolerance, a deep emotional connection, good communication, realistic expectations, care, foster, and a sense of humor.
* Updated article by Marni Feuerman
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