All married couples have arguments, or rather the fighting. How to fight is the key to whether or not you will have a long-term successful marriage. Fight fairly with respect for others is a critical double skill you need to learn.
The way you fight can often psychologists say more than what you are fighting about. If done correctly, conflict and in good health, a fair fight, can strengthen your marriage
Difficulty :. Average
Time required: No More than 15 minutes - at that time called a truce and set a time to discuss again the issue
Here's how:
do not let little things. bother you build until you explode the question in a great fight. This is not fighting fair in your marriage.
If you are angry about something and do not try to talk with your spouse within 48 hours, let it go. Otherwise, you do not fight fair.
If your spouse does not want to discuss the issue, fix an appointment within the next 24 hours for your just struggle. It is normal to go to bed angry. You need your sleep. Make sure the issue is discussed the next day
Diane Lore: "Go to bed angry Several therapists and couples say forget this adage on solving still anger before turning in - and let someone sleep on the couch ... We found that going to bed angry is often the best choice, "says Lisa Earle McLeod, author and veteran marriage of 23 years. It allows partners to identify their thoughts, get some sleep, and make a date to resume. beat (which may seem less important in the light of day) " Source: Diane Lore. "Fight Fairly and maintain peace in your relationship." WebMD.com.
Fighting fair means you know what the problem is. Then both you stick with it.
Keep your fight between you two. Do not bring third party like your mother-in-law, his best friend, or your children.
Fighting fair means that you do not hit below the belt. Respect your spouse.
Fighting fair means you do not wake up past history.
Fighting fair means no caller name. Even endearing terms and names of animals can be hurtful when you use a sarcastic tone.
Be careful when using humor. Laughter is good but teasing can be misinterpreted and can be hurtful.
Listen to each other completely while you fight. This includes looking at the body language. Look at each other while you talk.
Do not interrupt during your fight.
Fighting fair means that you do not blame each other make accusations.
Try using "I" sentences instead of "you" phrases.
If two of you are very angry, try to hold your hand while talking during your fight.
Be open to ask for forgiveness and be ready to forgive
Tips :.
Although it may be hard to forgive your spouse, not forgiving can cause more harm both emotionally and physically for you and your wedding. Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent free in your head.
Remember not to fight to win, but to fight for your relationship. Be prepared to compromise.
The conflict is not the problem. All married couples have disagreements. It is not know how to argue effectively creates difficulties in a marriage.
Do not use the words "never" and "always" in your statements to another.
Do not shout. Do not scream. Do not speak in a threatening tone
