Whether infidelity, lies or promises, these are major problems that invade your marriage. Trust between husband and wife is severely damaged by these profound betrayals. However, this does not mean that marriage is not recoverable. Rebuilding trust in your marriage can be difficult when your spouse has something important to violate your trust.
Confidence in an intimate relationship is to feel safe with another person. When something happens to cause, or both, you feel in danger with each other due to an event or series of events, trust is eroded. It takes time and effort to restore the sense of security you need for a marriage to thrive.
Here are some suggestions and help rebuild confidence in your marriage:
- Make a decision to love trying to let go of the past . Stop obsessing over the situation that has broken the trust between you and your spouse.
- Deciding to forgive or to be forgiven.
- If you are alone in your wedding who lied, cheated, etc. show that the errant behavior is gone by changing your behaviors. This means that more secrets, lies, infidelity, etc. You must be completely transparent, open and forthcoming.
- Together, set specific goals to get your marriage back on track. Talk openly about these goals and regularly check to make sure you are on track.
- To rebuild trust in your marriage, both of you need to renew your commitment to your marriage and another.
- The wounded spouse must share the pain. The other spouse must recognize the harm caused by the devastating experience of being cheated or lied. The other spouse must also feel the pain of their partner and show that it matters. This empathy is healing.
- Listen completely to another and with your heart, not just your head.
- Be honest. You must be able to understand and explain why the misbehavior occurred. You can not just say, "I do not know" You have to work hard to find out why it happened and why it will not happen again
- Avoid using words that can trigger a conflict... Use non-blaming "I" statements and does not always say, must never, or should.
- Take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Defensive will only perpetuate the conflict or crisis.
- be open to looking for tips to get a better understanding what caused the trust to be broken. Also be open to self-growth and improvement. Read self-help books on your own and together on how to restore confidence and strengthen your relationship.
- Remind each other that you deserve open and honest answers to your questions about the case or treason
general advice :.
- Recognize that rebuilding trust takes time. It will not happen overnight. There is no right or wrong amount of time, but you'll know when you get there.
- It's okay to remember and discuss incidents and betrayal. You can not forget what happened, but the attached pain will go away if you are actively working.
- Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your feelings with each other. You can comfort each other regardless of who the victim or the perpetrator is.
- Both things are as important as the big things. For example, call when you say you're going may seem small, but it is significant when trust has been broken.
What you need:
- Time
- Patience
- Honesty
- commitment
- Love
- forgiveness
If you find it is still very difficult to rebuild the broken trust, a competent therapist can help you deal with what happened, why and how to move forward. There are several forms of treatment for couples that are designed to restore confidence, communication and connection that can be particularly useful. You may even end up with a more strong marriage after going through such a crisis.
* Updated article by Marni Feuerman
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1 comments:
I believe it's impossible to rebuild marriage after one of the partners betrayed you.
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