Being able to forgive and let go of past wounds is an essential tool for a marriage relationship. In addition, being able to forgive is a way to keep you healthy both physically and emotionally. In fact, forgiveness and letting go can be one of the most important ways to keep your marriage going strong.
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If you stick to old hurts, disappointments, annoyances, treachery, insensitivity and anger, you are wasting time and energy. Nursing a perceived evil can possibly do to something more - hatred and extreme bitterness.
The lack of forgiveness can wear you down. In addition, being ruthless is not good for either your physical and mental well-being. Resentment gains momentum and chips away at the base of your relationship
How to forgive a partner who Hurt You: ..
- Be open and receptive to forgiveness
- make a conscious decision to forgive your spouse.
- When images of betrayal or the flash of evil in your mind, think of a quiet place or do something to distract you from dwelling on these thoughts.
- does not throw an error or an error return in the face of your spouse at a later date. Also, do not use it as ammunition in an argument.
- Do not seek revenge or retaliation. Try to get even only prolong the pain. Chances are it will not really make you feel better anyway.
- Accept that you may never know the reason of transgression, behavior or error.
- Remember that forgiveness does not mean that you approve the hurtful behavior.
- Be patient with yourself. Be able to forgive your spouse takes time. Do not try to hurry the process.
- If you continue to be unable to forgive, or you find yourself dwelling on the betrayal or bad, please seek professional advice to help you let go and forgive.
How to ask for forgiveness when you hurt your partner:
- See true contrition and remorse for the pain you have caused
- Be prepared to . make a commitment not to hurt your spouse again repeating the hurtful behavior.
- Accept the consequences of action that created evil.
- Be open to make amends.
- Be patient with your spouse. Being able to forgive yourself often takes time. Do not allow your feelings of betrayal spouse by telling your spouse to "get over it."
- Make sincere and verbal apology. This includes an action plan to do things.
Marriage need forgiveness
Marriage, like other close relationships, forgiveness needs to thrive. Remember that everyone makes mistakes. We all have bad days or cranky. Many people say things they do not think now and then. Everybody needs to forgive and be forgiven. This is especially true if the person who hurt you is trying to make amends and ask forgiveness.
No relationship, especially a marriage relationship can be maintained over a long period of time without forgiveness. Even if you can find it difficult to forgive, to be able to do this is crucial in marriage.
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If your spouse abuse you continue to betray you, keep lying to you or makes no real change in behavior, then it may be time to say enough is enough. This calls for you to seriously evaluate your marriage and maybe think about a divorce. When there is sufficient evidence that these major concerns are not going away, despite your efforts to forgive, your marriage is in trouble.
In some situations where there was a long period of abuse or betrayal, but no longer occurs, forgiveness for past hurts can take more time and that's okay. You must be both open to talk and continuing to treat. It is encouraged to seek the advice of counselors and clergy to help you with this
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* Article updated by Marni Feuerman
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