Most of us are aware of the most obvious things that ruin a marriage or a long-term relationship such as emotional or physical abuse, drug addiction and infidelity. Some problems are less visible, but can still cause significant relationship distress. These difficulties may also be present with other more obvious problems. However, some "killers" much less discernible relationship may be silently lurking around your wedding.
Disrespect
Rudeness is often very subtle. It erodes marriage under the surface because sometimes it is so subtle that both the person who disrespect the person and disrespect are both ignore is happening. For example, when a highly critical partner defects in another under cover spouses being "useful". Who are disrespectful are rarely aware of, and they may actually believe they meet their partner. Negative feelings can build and disrespectful degenerate into psychological or verbal abuse.
a lack of empathy
empathy is an essential ingredient in any healthy relationship, but especially in a marriage. A couple should be able to put in the place of their partner. Spouses must also be able to comfort their partners when they have difficult emotions like hurt or sadness, even anger. Empathy is not the same as pity. Empathy is to let you feel the pain of your partner out of love.
Uninterested
Couples can gradually lose interest in the other. This may be due to "growing out of" not sharing activities together, with values or a lack of common interests. A partner might be too involved in a particular activity to the exclusion of their spouse. Or a spouse refuses to do things with a spouse who loves someone and would like their company. Your husband may hate chick flicks, but suck it up and go with you sometimes mean a lot. It also shows clearly that you do think about yourself. continuous disinterest in each other leads to disconnection which will often lead to divorce, adultery of life as roommates.
Digger Sarcasm
joke can sometimes be a positive interaction that creates proximity. This is most evident when both partners have similar sense of humor. Alternatively, a joint used to joke as a way to hide or divert hostility towards each other. For example, a person might say, "Your food is inedible," then added, "I'm kidding!" This comment was not taken by the recipient as a joke, though. This kind of "joke" and sarcasm erodes slowly over time and may even become toxic. This behavior is often the result of underlying anger or repressed and it is not expressed directly or constructively to the partner.
Faking It
Sometimes love between two people is gone. It is still a natural response to pretend they are still in love. This often happens with married couples who have become emotionally disconnected. They can still say "I love you" and go through the motions every day. Nothing of substance is spoken among them. Nobody dares to say, "We seem to just do our own thing all the time," or similar Boredom may set and become emotional needs met by others Your wedding is clearly in danger at this stage The antidote is to... raise this painful subject with your spouse. Finally, decide to make a conscious effort to change this dynamic.
most of the time we are not aware of the troubling way these behaviors. therefore, they are "silent killers." We do not recognize how things until it is too late and incorporate that marriage is beyond repair. A partner must be brave enough to risk the discussion around these subjects and get professional help if they are insoluble on yo
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