Every marital relationship is unique. However, there are signs of warning and common red flags that indicate serious problems in the marriage. If you are in a marriage with these concerns, do not ignore them! Do not bury your head in the sand and think that these problems will simply disappear. They will usually not! You should talk with your spouse about them. These are difficult conversations, but necessary.
"Bottom line :. I hope you are all in happy marriages, but let's be honest, no marriage is perfect just be smart, work to keep your marriage alive and exciting, but don 't put your head in the sand, if the red flags are waving in the wind. " Silvana D. Raso in HuffingtonPost.com "Trouble in Paradise? How to know if the divorce is on the horizon." (2012).
Here are some of the warning signs most common of a troubled marriage.
- Both of Bicker you very much.
- You pull each other or use the eye roll much.
- You do not fight fair.
- You end up with the same arguments on the same things again and again.
- Your fights escalate out of control or matches screaming.
- There seems to be a feeling of indifference between you
- one or two of you have begun to detach emotionally
- you often fight in front of your children
- There are a lot of niggling going on between you two.
- you have more fun together. Your spouse prefers to spend free time away from you on a regular basis.
- You have nothing nice to say to each other.
- You do not speak with one of your other problems or feelings.
- you do not respect each other or you harass another.
- There is a disparity between you concerning gender roles and decision making
- you can not seem to agree on the goals and values.
- You do not trust each other and feel suspicious.
- The level of sexual intimacy in your marriage is low or there is not.
- Teasing became harmful.
- Your partner keeps secrets.
- you think you are getting sick or having physical pain due to marital stress
- you do not make time for each other and new experiences together
- your spouse prefers to talk or text on a cell phone is kept private.
- Your spouse is in frequent contact with old friends and friends via social media.
- your spouse tries to isolate you from your family and friends.
- you discover your spouse is lying on the money, is more frugal than usual, hides money or you control with money.
- You are happy when your spouse is away from home for an afternoon, a meeting, or for a business trip.
- You realize that there are psychological and / or physical in your marriage.
- One or two of you have considered unfaithful or was unfaithful -. in real life or online, physically or emotionally
"family distress is one of the most frequent and disturbing human problems. All those who are married experiences difficulties, but for some, these problems reach the point that partners become deeply disappointed and upset their marriages and may even ask if they want to continue to stay married. family distress is very worrying and marital problems often progress ways make it easy for things to go from bad to worse. However, in most cases, this flow in a negative direction can be changed. Most marriages can return to satisfactory. Sometimes people can make these changes on their own, but often help from a marriage counselor is required. "Marital Distress of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy website (www.AAMFT.com)
not wait to ask for professional help
to receive more wedding tips, do not wait until your marriage is beyond repair to get professional help. a skilled marriage therapist can be an ally for your wedding. This person can help guide you through the communication if necessary to get your marriage back on track. therapist will not take advantage (within reason) to help create the security and connection and help you with negative communication patterns. When the problems become insoluble by our own efforts, it is a good idea to seek professional help.
* Article updated by Marni Feuerman
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