Although there are many ways to improve your marriage, this list of five things you can do is centered around major issues red flag that can tear your marriage apart.
Common Red Flags
- Lack of mutual respect
- The lack of mutual admiration
- Lack of time together
- the lack of sexual desire for each other
- Do not share responsibilities
- disagree on the financial targets
5 ways to improve your Marriage
1. do not take each other for granted
If you take your spouse for granted because you think your partner will always be there for you, you made a huge mistake. Take the time and make the effort to be kind, thoughtful, grateful, respectful, supportive, and saying to your spouse. You must also be empathetic, not dismissive, of your thoughts and feelings spouses.
Do not take your spouse for granted means going beyond remembering your anniversary and birthday of your spouse. Do not take your spouse for granted means being attentive to how your spouse feels and what your spouse thinks.
You actively listen without interrupting. You also have to both show and tell your spouse you love.
2. Working together to improve your sex life
If you do not want to end up as one of the statistics "sexless marriage" do not put your sex life on the bottom of your priority list. Remember when you first met and felt the twinges of lust and desire of the other. Leave romantic notes and love for each other. Dredge each other. Schedule some time alone with each other on a regular basis. Think seriously about kicking the TV in your bedroom! Show your partner how much you love and care often leads to a satisfying and fulfilling sex life.
3. Accept to do your part of Chores around your house
If you want peace, harmony and a clean house organized, then the two of you must work together to ensure that household chores are shared equally. This is especially important if you both work. Things such as the financial record keeping, maintenance, shopping, gardening, planning, cleaning, cooking, child care, transportation, and so on responsibilities are shared. clutter and messiness household can create stress for both of you, so talk about how, together, you can regularly keep clutter to a minimum.
4. Discuss your finances
When you have money, it can come between you two if you did not talk about your financial goals, saving money and spend money. If your budget is tight, money can create stress and division you deal with bills and worry. If necessary, participate in a financial workshop, talk to a financial planner, learn recommended ways to build a nest egg for emergencies and planning for your retirement situations. Discuss your finances so that you are both on the same page on this.
5. Simplify your lives
Think about the number of hours you work each. Also think about the amount of time you spend on leisure or home maintenance, volunteer work and time you want to spend with friends or extended family. Now compare that to the amount of time you spend with another. Is it out of balance? If so, re-evaluate how you spend your time at a time and consider how to simplify your life if you are married, a couple with children or empty nesters. If you are over worked, broader, and more tired, you put your marriage at risk. You may even consider downsizing your living space. The idea of downsizing involves more than moving to a smaller house. It is the attitude that it is about your home.
You must put your marriage first or you may find you will not have more!
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* Article updated by Marni Feuerman
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