You agonized over the decision whether or not to divorce? If you are, other aspects of your life are likely to negatively impact while you are in this state of limbo.
areas of your life Negatively Affected by Uncertainty
- your work :. your job may be in jeopardy because of the bad mood and lack of attention
- your other relationships: your children, friends and other family members may feel your sadness, frustration, impatience, fear, anger and indecision
- your health :. Your health is also compromised if you do not sleep well, or you are ignorant to exercise and eat healthy foods.
Major Reason People Stay
for many couples, the amount of time they have already invested in their marriages has much to do with their decision to stay or go . It is usually easier for a young married couple to divorce and start their lives again for partners who have been together a decade or more.
Are You Better Off Married or Divorced?
How do you know if you're better to stay married or get a divorce?
Only you know the answer to that question. Sometimes a marriage is worth saving and sometimes it is not. It is important to deal with the realities of divorce and not just divorce fantasy.
What advice for major decisions
- Try to reduce stress in your life.
- Get on firm ground so that you can handle whatever comes your way.
- CURRENCY survival or backup plan to give you more of a sense of control over your life. You may never have to use it, but still.
- If your physical or emotional safety depends on being separated from your spouse, you must do what your priority.
Considerations
When this kind of life-changing decision to recognize what you lose and do not rely on what you can receive.
If your main reason for wanting a divorce is because you are unhappy being single again can not make you happier.
questions
- do you have dreams you spouse died?
- you feel like you have nothing to give to your wedding?
- At any forgiveness, hope and patience in your heart exhausted?
- you feel indifference toward your spouse?
- Does your spouse treat you badly or show indifference?
- is there a total lack of privacy (not just sex, but emotional intimacy, affection, laughter?)
If you said yes to these questions, you might be on the point of no return in your marriage relationship. Feeling indifference is a strong sign that your marriage is over.
You may need some time away to see your marriage more clearly. Sometimes getting away for even a weekend to fix things on your own can help you see your situation more clearly. For many people, this is when something sort of clicks in and they know what to do.
seek professional help
Be sure to consult a licensed professional counselor who works with couples, even if you go alone. Sometimes a therapist with a lack of understanding of relational interactions will help to put the nail in the marital coffin. Better yet, you can try both discernment tips for advice about important life decision.
Moving On
When it's time to throw in the towel, chances are that you will. You will experience a moment of clarity "aha" that you must do.
If you make the decision to divorce, be right for you. Remember that if your marriage fails, it does not mean you have failed. Some unhealthy relationships are not supposed to succeed. Sometimes people keep trying to make sense of something that makes no sense and can not be solved
Read also :. Questions you need to ask before You Leave Your Marriage
Buy Amazon: Should I try to work it out: A guide for individuals and couples at the cross roads of divorce by Alan J. Hawkins and Tamara A. Fackrell
* Article updated by Marni Feuerman
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