Although I do not believe in "stay together no matter what," there is reason to hang in there when you think your marriage do not, or if you think you have grown apart, or if you think you are missing out on something or you are dreaming of divorce or hoping that your spouse is having an affair.
I do not mean to stay in marriages where there is domestic violence, conflict, drug use, criminal behavior or infidelity series. I do not believe that these marriages are worth saving.
If you can work through the normal cycles of disillusionment, your wedding can probably evolve and change for the better.
Reasons to stay together
Just as there are good reasons and bad to get married, there are good and bad reasons to stay together. Here are some good reasons.
- You both want to be together and you love each other.
- You are friends and have respect for each other.
- You can see a light at the end of the tunnel as the two you are now.
the reading section Monique Honaman, "I Just wish they An Affair" and Iris Krasnow article "Help! I hate my husband" was disappointing.
If you can relate to women mentioned in the article and you want your marriage even if your husband is a good man and true, I really hope so think twice. The belief in soul mates, having a low sex marriage, running on empty, or having your marriage stuck in a rut all you can lead to a feeling of not being met, and missing out on something, or do not feel happy.
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Cathy Meyer. "Couples working through issues end up with stronger marriages and a level of happiness beyond all that they could have imagined the day when they took their wedding vows "
Source: Cathy Meyer. "What are some benefits of staying married?" . DivorceSupport.about.com
Dan Wile: "... there is value in choosing a long-term partner in the realization of what you will inevitably be the choice of a set particularly intractable problems that you are experiencing the ten, twenty or next fifty years "
. Source: Dan Wile. After the honeymoon. 08. pg. 13.
John Gottman: "Reporters often ask me," What do couples fight about most of the time I answer?.. "Absolutely nothing They fight for nothing" Couples rarely sat down, creating an agenda and argue on specific topics, such as the budget. Sometimes they do. Instead, they often hurt the feelings of each other in very ordinary seemingly insignificant, small moments, which seem to come from absolutely nothing about. "
Source: John M. Gottman Science confidence. Emotional Attunement for Couples 2011. p 202.
Alisa Bowman.. ....." Find your Happily Ever After is like tending a garden ... This is the wedding you work you work harder you work even harder part of your work pays off some. of it not "
Source: Alisa Bowman." 10 Steps to Happily Ever After "in :. Project Happily Ever After 2010. pg 238.
Iris Krasnow.: ". You're certainly not alone Many women feel that way Many women think about divorce at least once a month, if not more, and manage to stay married for decades .... I know from my own wedding 24 years and resilient women in the secret life of brides who have decided to stay until age 60 that marriage is evolving. Their own survival stories prove that the periodic explosions can open the channels of the richest and strongest relationships ... Acting on lust often proves not to be true love, but to be true disappointment. It takes grain and extended deep love and hate deeply intimate and is the rhythm of family relationships. "
Source: Iris Krasnow. "Help! I hate my husband." HuffingtonPost.com. 25/01/2012.
Maggie Scarf: "Marriage is a journey, and things turn around"
Source: Sarah Hampson "Science of a long marriage..." TheGlobeandMail.com. 10/02/08.