Also known as "Peter Pan", a "man-child" is a man who refuses to grow up. You're probably wondering why it will not grow and, moreover, how did you end up fall in love with this person. his emotional and mental capacity is that of a teenager. He is immature, irresponsible and unreliable. you're overworked, too responsible and compensate for deficits. in the beginning, you were attracted to him thinking it was fun, carefree and relaxed. as seductive as it was at first, you grew up, became an adult, and he did not.. you must now do everything possible to avoid strangling
man-child common behavior includes the following examples.
- he very bad idea he believes in reality it has no baggage or emotional family dysfunction You are. his longest relationship. Now you know why he never had a long-term relationship before you.
- He thinks recreational drugs, especially pot are fine to use. It does not give weight to the effect on health, sluggish mentality or negative influence that his wrong choices have on your children. It emails you studies that say pot smoking is not harmful and drinking can be healthy. It seems always checked, but called it "relaxed". He is quick to point out how "tight" you are, and you should use it too.
- is not used in a "career." It can go from job to job or trying to avoid work at all. It has always, and perhaps still do, survive outside the financial support of its enabling parents. If it is working, it is one that passes the blame, complaining all the rules, taking long smoke breaks or hiding in the bathroom playing with his phone.
- His main hobbies involve electronics. It may be addicted to video games and / or fantasy games he plays for hours. He's allergic to exercise.
- He does not share the burden at home. There is no cooking, cleaning or laundry. If you ask him to help you, it acts like it is a huge deal. You must help him dress for any opportunity because sneakers and T-shirts are 95% of her wardrobe.
- He can not express himself maturely. There is no "manning" when necessary. No back and forth discussions that lead to problem solving. He complains, whines and think everything is unfair. It is small and keeps score. It can even throw in all directions tantrums. You will always be the one to raise important issues for discussion. It is great to pretend that all is well.
- All his friends behave similarly. Perhaps you met some in the past who seemed to have mature and responsible, but they no longer come around more. When you go out with other couples, you feel embarrassed about his behavior or lack of achievements
You know the story :. Behind every Peter Pan's Wendy. The man-child seemed at first like a challenge. Your maternal instincts kicked into overdrive. You were quick to take him under your wing and help guide him. You are now beyond frustration with the current state of your marriage. Your sexual desire for him is completely gone. What are you doing right now? Does this man ever grow?
You must stop your own Enabling and dysfunctional behavior out of this difficult dynamics. You must understand that you are part of the reason why your spouse continues to act as he does. Think about your childhood. Did you grow too quickly or be too responsible? Maybe you had to take care of an alcoholic or neglectful parent. Were you in charge of your younger siblings? You probably stuck in such a role, then brought your care taking behavior in adulthood, including your current relationships.
The rate of these marriages Peter Pan syndrome / Wendy survival is not great. It's time to stop to take over for him. It will be essential for you to create healthy boundaries. But once you do, there is no guarantee it will finally grow up. If it does not, professional help is imperative. He must understand that the viability of the marriage depends on you both change the dynamic that you two have created. If you are both willing to make the necessary changes to allow it to grow, only then can you find happiness given to you escaped.
Recommended reading: Peter Pan syndrome: men who never grew up by Dan Kiley