When we saw this list of seven things to make your wedding a success, we were not surprised. The suggestions came from a study by Art Aron and his wife Elaine Aron of the State University of New York at Stony Brook are realistic, achievable, and recommended by many wedding experts.
Yes, this is great suggestions. But you can not print this article and put it on a shelf and forgotten. You both need to commit to these behaviors and be part of your life together. Accept the challenge to implement them on a regular basis in your marriage. Over time, they can be part of your successful marriage
Art and Elaine Aron "7 ways to support unions'
prenuptial Skills Training :. Aaron believes premarital education can teach couples "to manage conflicts and support each other ... the proof is that 10 to 20 years later, people are much better in their marriage. They are less likely to be divorced, less likely to be unhappy. "It also recommends marriage enrichment courses for couples who are married for many years
Date nights :. Although not new board, it is nice to have more experts encourage the date nights for married couples. According to Aron "S they do [date night] every week, it is good for their marriage. It enriches and enlivens. "We believe that the implementation date nights on your calendar and do not let other things interfere with this time and show the priority you place on your wedding. Remember to find ways to make your nights different day and you can get the
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fair fight :. this is one of those recommendations "duh", but really, learning to manage the healthy way marital conflicts can reduce divorce rates. If you fight to win or try to avoid conflict, did you set up to divorce. Fighting just can strengthen your marriage. Know when to apologize and how to forgive are also important domestic skills both of you need to incorporate into your wedding
Treating depression :. Even if your own mental health can suffer if you have a depressed spouse, do not think you can improve things for you two trying to treat depression your spouse yourself. "The best thing they can do for the relationship is to get treatment." If your depressed spouse will not see a doctor, consider seeing a counselor on your own and you take care of yourself emotionally and physically
Support Offer Just Enough :. Give unwanted advice is not always beneficial for your wedding. "... .. It is certainly possible to do too much when offering support to your companion Sometimes the right kind of support is more popular than the quantity"
Create rituals together: another piece of advice not new, but an important way to increase your marital satisfaction is to share in holiday rituals. Although the study focuses on the religious rituals and holidays as important in affirming and cementing marriages, we believe that the daily rituals are equally important and show the love you have for each other
Celebrate Success :. Hopefully we will not have to remember to celebrate and recognize the moments of your spouse's success. You do not throw a party every time your spouse share good news, but say you are proud goes a long way to creating a successful marriage. Supplementing your spouse should be a daily activity.
Full Article Jane E. Allen. "Science-Backed 7 Signs Your Marriage has staying power." ABCNews.go.com. 12/04/2012.
