When you first learn that your child has special needs and long care of life, you can be emotionally overwhelmed. If you have a child with a disability or chronic illness, you have to face reality. Your life will never be the same.
Your wedding will go through periods of change that makes any relationship, it meets more challenges and constraints.
Coping with stress and change
a major key to deal with all this stress and change is to try to accept it and to regularly express your feelings and thoughts with each other . Chronic illness or disability does not necessarily destroy your marriage, but it will tip the scale in your marital relationship.You and your spouse settings in different ways, and often at a different pace. Sometimes your partner will want to talk about the situation, then other times may need time alone.
Deal with your feelings
The feelings of sadness, anxiety, denial, anger, embarrassment, fear, confusion, guilt, worry, resentment, and shock usually occurs before a sense of acceptance into your hearts.affected areas of your marriage
Some areas that will be affected in your marriage relationship are :.- Finance
- Self-esteem
- Sexuality
- Spirituality
- social life
- Future planning
- Style Parenting
- Recreation
what you can do to strengthen your marriage
- Talk openly problems and issues when they occur.
- Allow friends and family to provide additional support, or seek professional help before your marriage is in danger.
- Know that chronic disease will disrupt the course of your marriage now and then.
- Reaffirm your wedding engagement to another.
- Be patient with one another.
- Take time to pursue the things you renew as individuals.
- Develop a family support network.
- Celebrate each step.
- together, learn all you can about your child's disability.
- Remember to take care of your relationship. Take time for you two to be alone every day - even if it is a walk around the block. Some time away together is also important.
- Sort what is important and what is not important to you both. Really look at your values and your hopes and dreams for your life together. Discuss what you can accomplish more.
- Look what professionals do believe a strong family. The list includes communication, listening, affirmation, in the respect, trust, have fun and a sense of humor, and know when to seek help. These forces need to be worked in the marriage relationship of a couple, too.
Change is not always a negative experience
Although your marriage is forever changed, the change does not have to be negative. Many couples share their sense of joy, awe and gratitude as they talk about their special child. Because they were able to communicate and share openly with each other, their marriage was also enriched.Having a child with special needs or sick a loss of control. It takes time to achieve acceptance and willingness to adapt. One of the main challenges that disability or illness held the wedding is to find a healthy balance of dependence and independence.
It is important for you to talk about your individual needs and how they are affected, practically and emotionally. Look whose life is changed more or less, and how.
Personal Story
We remember through feelings of shock and despair after our daughter, Teresa Rose, was born. She was a victim of trisomy 18, and had several anomalies which may shorten its life.Suddenly we were faced with a life that was very different from what we had imagined and hoped. Both of us had similar feelings, but individually we each had different feelings too.
Our marriage was not endangered by the fact that our whole life had been changed forever. We knew how to communicate with another ... not just the choices that we would have to do and disability Teresa, but our feelings and emotions.
We knew how important it was to focus more on our "being" with each other than dealing with the aspects "do" work with doctors, hospitals, and managing finances. At the same time, we had enough practice to recognize that we could not ignore the realities of finance, etc. we face.