Where would we be without romance? What was the court and marriage as our distant ancestors? Starting with the recognition by the ancient Greeks to the need to describe more than one kind of love, to invent the word eros to describe carnal love, and agape to signify spiritual love, take a walk through the romantic heritage with this chronology romantic customs dating rituals and expressions of love
ancient Courtship
in ancient times, a many first marriages were by capture, no choice. - When there was a shortage of marriageable women, men have attacked other villages for women. Frequently the tribe warrior stole a wife would come looking for her, and it was necessary for the warrior and his new wife to go into hiding to avoid being discovered. According to an old French custom, as the moon went through all the phases of the couple drank a potion called metheglin, which was made from honey. Therefore, we get the word honeymoon. Arranged marriages were the norm, mainly arising from business relations of the will and / or need for property, monetary or political alliances.
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medieval chivalry
buying a woman dinner to open a door for her, many rituals of courting today are rooted in medieval chivalry. In the Middle Ages the importance of love in a relationship has emerged as a reaction to arranged marriages, but has not been considered a prerequisite in marriage decisions. Suitors wooed their destiny with seranades and flowery poetry, like the lovelorn characters on stage and verse. Chastity and honor were highly regarded virtues. In 1228, it is said by many that women first gained the right to propose marriage in Scotland, a right which then spread slowly across Europe. However, a number of historians have pointed out that this proposal supposed law of the leap year did not happen, and instead earned his legs like a romantic notion of difference in the press.
Formality Victorian
During the Victorian era (1837-101), romantic love became regarded as the main requirement for marriage and the court became more formal - almost an art form among the upper classes. A man concerned could not just walk up to a woman and start a conversation. Even after being introduced, there was still some time before it was considered appropriate for a man to speak to a woman or a couple to do together. Once they had been formally submitted, if the gentleman wanted to escort the woman home, he will present his card to her. At the end of the evening, the lady would look at his options and choose who would be his escort. She would inform the lucky gentleman giving him his own card asking him escort her home. Courting almost all took place in the house of the girl, under the watchful eye of parents. If the court progressed, the couple could move to the porch. Smitten couples rarely saw one without the presence of a chaperone, and marriage proposals have often been written. involving
Courtship Customs & Tokens of Love
- Some of the Nordic countries courtship customs of knives. For example, in Finland when a girl came of age, his father reported that she was available for marriage. The girl was wearing an empty sheath attached to his belt. If a suitor loved the girl, he would have put a puukko knife in the sheath, the girl would keep if she was interested in him.
- The combination of custom, found in many parts of the 16th and 17th century Europe and America, has courting couples to share a bed, fully dressed, and often a "council reunification" them or increase coverage tied the girls legs. The idea was to allow the couple to talk and get to know each other, but within safe limits (and hot) of the house of the girl.
- Dating back to the 17th century Wales, richly carved spoons, known as Lovespoons were traditionally made from a single piece of wood by a suitor to show his affection for his well -aimée. The decorative sculptures have different meanings - ". Love grows" an anchor which means "I want to install" a complex meaning vine
- chivalrous gentlemen in England often sent a pair of gloves in their true love. If she wore gloves to church on Sunday, he scored his acceptance of the proposal.
- in some parts of the 18th century Europe, a cookie or a small bread was broken over the head of the bride she left the church. unscrambled married clients for parts, which they then placed under their pillows to dream of what they would have one day marry. this custom is considered the precursor of the wedding cake.
- many cultures around the world recognize the idea of marriage as the "ties that bind". In some African cultures, long grasses are braided together and used to tie the hands of the groom and the bride together to symbolize their union. delicate string is used in Hindu Vedic wedding ceremony to tie one hand of the bride in a hands of the groom. In Mexico, the practice of having a ceremonial rope placed loosely around the neck of both the bride and groom to "bind" them together is common.