If you or your spouse are in a grumpy mood or bad, there are two realities that you face. None of these should be a surprise for you.
1. It is your responsibility to deal with your bad mood. This does not mean something that your spouse should try to correct.
2. Your tantrums could have a negative impact on everyone in your family.
"As an infectious disease, the negative emotions of a family member can have lasting effects on mental and physical health of the rest of the family ... the study of emotional transmission, published in the number of Journal marriage and the family and three other studies in February 1999, revealed that negative emotions such as anger, depression and anxiety are more likely to be transmitted within a family that positive emotions are contagious joy in the family appears to be a rare " Source: Charles Downey ... "Emotions Occasion: Catching a bad mood." Swedish.org.
Identify Your Bad Mood
If you do not want your sour mood lead to more irritation and hostility can in your marriage, it is important that you communicate the reason for your bad mood to your spouse.
to identify your bad mood, it might help if you answer these questions in your own mind.
am I too listen to newscasts?
is there something I avoid?
is there a difficult question, we have not discussed?
Am I frustrated or angry about something?
Am I eating enough vegetables and fruit?
Am I feeling jealous or misunderstood?
Could my hormones be the cause?
when was the last time I laughed or smiled?
should I unmet needs?
am I allowing negativity to my spouse to rub off on me?
Am I taking medication that could cause mood swings?
Have I been getting enough sleep? Am I tired?
Am I drinking enough water?
Is my diet healthy?
Do I undulating or have poor posture?
Am I want sun?
Do I work too?
Do I want to wallow in my sour mood and playing poor-me role?
Bad Mood coping skills
Make it a daily routine that you each have some quiet time of about 20 minutes. This includes a stay at home parent, too.
Listen to music that might improve your mood.
Go outside. To take a walk. Work in the garden. Play with your dog or cat. Make a stretching exercise.
consider doing some breathing exercises. Breathe fresh air.
Visualize a serene and positive time in your life. Think of favorite holidays. Meditate.
Consider aromatherapy and find a way to smell the jasmine, eucalyptus, grapefruit or your favorite fragrance. Light a candle or lotion dab on your temples.
Take some time alone to sort things out. Prioritize your goals.
Look at pictures of people support and love in your life.
Talk to someone.
Eat dark chocolate. Drink more water.
Watch a funny movie. Read a book that will make you smile. Release endorphins in your brain.
Take a bubble bath or a shower.
Select or buy flowers to have in your home.
Ask a hug.
Some Dos and Don'ts If your spouse is in a bad mood
do not assume you are the reason for the crabbiness your spouse. Do not take it personally.
Do not make jokes about the bad mood of your spouse.
Do not suggest having sex.
Do not Stomp Out of the house.
do not give your spouse the silent treatment.
does not preach or lecture your spouse.
not acknowledge the bad mood and give your partner space.
not provide support, but Nag asking what's wrong
Additional Resources :. Shirley Bragg. "5 ways to improve your mood." Beauty.about.com. Dr. Maoshing Ni. "Going Up! 7 Pointers to lift a bad mood." Health.yahoo.com. 27/08/07. Lisa Ann Smith. "Banish bad mood in 15 minutes." RealSimple.com.
