tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23907992793551638232024-03-14T00:34:04.805-07:00Enjoy MarriedEnjoy Married - Enjoy the bliss of becoming one. May marriage brings great joy, love and passion in your life. A romantic journey begins with marriageAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.comBlogger337125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-42795908369465994632017-01-30T21:25:00.000-08:002017-01-30T21:25:04.682-08:00Here is what your children need most after divorce [Here is what your children need most after divorce [ - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:41.039%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/7/o/co-parenting-scale.jpg" alt="functional co-parenting scale - [Photo courtesy of Rachel Boyle & Trevor Crow Mullineaux}" width="385" height="158" class="" data-description="Here's What Your Children Need Most After You Divorce: Co-parenting relationships function on a continuum" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> Co-parenting relationships based on a continuum. <span class="credit"> [PhotogracieusetédeRachelBoyle&TrevorCorbeauMullineaux}</span> </div> </figcaption> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <div class="by-line by-line-guestauthor by-line-top"> <div class=""> By Trevor Crow Mullineaux </div> </div> <div class="published"> Update <span itemprop="dateModified"> August 19, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> If you are simple, and a parent, and you are considering entering a new serious relationship or "blend" your family, you probably have lots of concerns. A major concern is probably how your ex will deal with your new relationship. In many cases the former spouse or biological parent can cause stress between the family and the pain. In the best case, you and all the adults in your part of the family, respect and to raise healthy children, emotionally secure a priority as you grow a security relationship between households. </p> <p> <strong> A friendly healthy co-parenting relationship is entirely possible with the intention and patience. </strong> </p> <p> This means that all adults involved in the life of your child communicate calmly and respectfully, pay and pick up on time, return toys, books and clothes, do not use children as conduits of information or programming and speak positively of the former and new partner. Each of you as parents consider the education of children as a team effort. You are flexible and help each other on planning and child-care.Paying for schools and activities are distributed as fairly as possible, and you are aware not to take advantage of other parents. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> high functioning, secure co-parents are a blessing to your children. Your children can go from one house to another without drama. They feel safe having a relationship with both sets of parents. Especially children grow up hoping that the adults in their lives bring well-being and emotional security of children to parental anger, jealousy or revenge. Children should not be exposed to negative feelings of an adult about their ex and divorce. Children should know they are loved and safe. </p> <p> If you are one, high co-parent operation secure, on a scale of 1-10 to, you're a "10". Your behaviors and intentions are favorable to the effort of co-parenting team. In addition, the biological parents express appreciation for help and step-parent child support and other. </p> <p> By creating a collaborative, co-parenting inter-family environment, you give your children a much better chance of being emotionally healthy and resilient. You are also helping your children feel safe taking risks and necessary to help it grow. Children thrive when they know they have a safe, loving refuge <em> two </em> homes where they are seen, heard and feel a sense of belonging. </p> <p> Conversely, if you or your former spouse or biological parent does not work as a team and actively sabotages the co-parenting efforts, then you or your ex are at the other end of the scale, obtaining a "1" or "2" If you talk to your ex in front of your children, threaten to hurt or engage in physical pushing or blocking, cause you emotional distress your children. </p> <p> negative co-parenting or sabotage is emotionally damaging to your children with long-term effects. It will also have a negative impact on your new marriage. When a bio parent is angry and vindictive, trashing ex for children, sabotage the new spouse of the former and openly saying hurtful things about the other parent of the child, children suffer, you suffer and your spouse suffers. </p> <p> Children need to feel they are safe to have a relationship with both parents. If a parent requires loyalty to another parent, children are placed in an untenable situation. Each child is ½ of each parent. When you ask your kids disown the other parent, children struggle with hating / ½ disavowing themselves, causing emotional wounds deeply contradictory. </p> <p> If you find that you are in a relationship to 1-3 on the scale co-parenting, first ask what you and your spouse might do differently to smooth communication between households. Maybe ask the bio parents what you can all do to create a safe environment for children. I encourage you to seek help from a family therapist to mediate co-parenting issues if necessary. </p> <p> If you are sure you have made every effort to work collaboratively together, and your ex will not be a team player, then it is necessary to erect strong boundaries between houses. This may mean pick up and drop offs are on school or public places only. Sabotage biological parent has not hosted on your door, or in the house. All communication is done through text or email. (There are some great applications that make it easier). All communication is strictly on planning and well-being of children. </p> <p> Another damaging behavior or ex biological parent can engage in is to use the judicial system to punish or maintain a negative relationship with the biological parent that causes financial and emotional stress. In this situation, you and your spouse need a family lawyer who can help you protect yourself. </p> <p> If such is particularly vindictive and it is intended for your new spouse, it is your duty to protect him. If your ex trashes your new spouse, you need to end it. In the opinion of your ex to your new partner is irrelevant. You may need to block social media, emails, phone numbers, the name of your spouse. You, as the biological parent should handle all communications concerning children with the biological parent. </p> <p> You can not control what happens in your home. If you create a safe space, emotional support for your children, you do your best in a difficult situation. Your children will eventually grow up and understand that you were there for them. You can not change what happens in the other house, you can just focus on creating a family environment secured safely in your home. </p> <p> If your ex-spouse is doing everything in their power to keep your children from you, then it is your duty to make every effort to maintain a presence in their lives. You may have to use the legal system to keep the visits. Most of the time, do not give up. Children need to know and feel that you fought your best to have a relationship with them. Keep track of your efforts, you may have to show proof a day when they are grown </p> <p> (Caveat :. I write this assuming that all parents are safe, not abuse children sexually or emotionally). </p> <h3> <strong> scale relative Co-operation (1-10): </strong> </h3> <p> <strong> 10 - the functioning of stepfamilies highest </strong> </p> <p> <strong> 1 - the lowest, with fights, dangerous emotionally, vindictive, sabotaging </strong> </p> <h3> higher operating data, secure co-parenting: </h3> <ul> <li> respectful </li> <li> flexible </li> <li> just </li> <li> support </li> <li> Kind </li> <li> collaboration </li> <li> Safe </li> <li> healthy boundaries </li> <li> emotional Objective well-being of children </li> <li> Calm, style of positive communication between households </li> <li> adults make plans involved without children </li> <li> adults are respectful of former and new partner </li> <li> adults communicate with children, it is safe and good to have a relationship with the other parent and bio family </li> <li> biological parents are grateful for the efforts of parents-and to express that to the kids </li> </ul> <p> the potential outcome is to have children who are emotionally resilient, adaptive and willing to take appropriate risks. They have several adults in their lives willing to drop everything and run for them. There are more resources available for children: love, time money, and mentoring. They develop a strong immune system and "secure attachment styles" emotionally because they are loved and feel safe. </p> <h3> Low Operating data, very anxious and sabotage co-parenting </h3> <ul> <li> Trashing ex </li> <li> Angry, feeling vindictive in the house </li> <li> Style strong communication, angry, confrontational, condescending </li> <li> Physically threatening, they create the sense of danger and instability </li> <li> Demands loyalty to the former children </li> <li> sabotages the relationship of the children with a new partner of the former </li> <li> no flexibility </li> <li> does not pay child support / alimony on time </li> <li> did not pick up children on time, promises the activity of children and does not show </li> <li> Use judiciary to punish ex and new partner </li> <li> does not return clothes, toys and books </li> <li> irritated and angry about the ex and his new relationship </li> <li> Uses the children to communicate, plan, program </li> <li> Pumps children personal information on ex and new joint </li> <li> Use children as emotional support to adult feelings </li> <li> inherently dangerous to children emotionally </li> </ul> <p> the potential outcome is to have fragile emotionally anxious, avoidant or chaotic attachment styles developed by children. The children suffer from a life of deep emotional wounds, prone to addiction and many difficulties to connect to future romantic partners. Their immune system tends to be naturally suppressed by anxiety and emotional instability. They may be too dangerous to take risks, or take inappropriate risks that are destructive or dangerous. </p> <p> You can see how it is crucial to any attempt to co-parent in a practical way for the sake of your children. It is impossible to control a former (or other person) but it is quite possible to make these changes yourself. Maybe your ex will follow. The critical part to remember is that this will help your children to thrive, and your new marriage survive </p> <p> <strong> Buy Amazon :. <em> Blending Families: Merging households with children 8-18 </em> </strong> Trevor Crow Mullineaux and Maryann Karinch </p> <p> <strong> KEEP YOUR WEDDING ON TRACK ... SIGN UP FOR MARRIAGE EMAIL WEEKLY NEWSLETTER TODAY! </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-61900287828748541882017-01-29T18:24:00.000-08:002017-01-29T18:24:03.317-08:00Combining families: Stepping challengeCombining families: Stepping challenge <div class="content-img-wrapper"> - <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/3/o/stepfamily.jpg" alt="blended family - Hero Images/Creative RF/Getty" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="Blending Families: Stepping Up to The Challenge" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Hero Images / RF Creative / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> August 19, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> When deciding to make a living with your partner to form a new blended family, many rewards and challenges. A stepfamily can include your child or children of your new spouse from a previous relationship. It may take a few years for a stepfamily to fall into place and work well together. It is normal for children to feel uncertain about the coming changes and how this will affect current relationships with their birth parents. They will also worry about live with new step-siblings. Plan how your blended family work before the marriage takes place will give you the best chance of success. </p> <h3> Step-Parenting 101 </h3> <p> One of the biggest challenges of stepfamily involves parenting and discipline. If a couple takes the time to discuss their expectations about parenting and discipline, it can be very useful. These talks should happen before remarrying. You and your spouse must be specific about your expectations. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> For example, what are the rules of the house are, which tasks and what rewards or punishments will look like. You should also talk about your values, beliefs and philosophy around both parents and how to develop a cohesive unit as a step-family. </p> <p> It is particularly important that consistency in the parent structure. You want the kids to adjust as well as possible and be consistent will certainly help. Typically, the biological parents should be the ones to take the main responsibility for applying the rules, with the stepparent action in a supporting role. You must always be both on the same page that does not inadvertently encourage manipulation in children. You also do not want to be shocked by anything moving together. You do not want to discover that the youngest also gets to sleep in your marriage bed, meals are in front of the TV or the children can come and go from home without permission if you are absolutely against such things. </p> <p> once you have set your parenting in the order structure, turning it into a support, love, mixed well house is another task altogether. Do not expect instant harmony "Brady Bunch". All you need time together to bond and navigate new relationships. Remember that you are dealing with children! It is a major expectation of them to do as well as visiting hours and time sharing. You should not force these relationships and connections. You can demand respect, civility and courtesy, but you can not force children to all as their stepsiblings or stepparent. </p> <h3> Children vs The New Spouse - A battle Loosing </h3> <p> Who comes first, your children or your spouse? The answer is both. As in your first marriage, both children and adult primary relationship were priorities. You may be divorced because you are feeding your first marriage. If that were the case, you know the importance of feeding your new marriage or it disintegrate. When your children you and your new spouse to see in a foster and loving relationship, it is healthy for them. However, your children do not care about your romantic life, and they do not ask for a divorce. This means that you must pay attention to their emotional needs and tend to them. </p> <p> You and your spouse have an obligation to all children in the household feel safe. They need to know they can trust you both and go to one of you to speak openly. You should also regularly check with them and not express anger if they are unhappy with some of the new arrangements. Do you best to help each individual child with his struggles adapting to the new house. By sex and age of the child, each adjusted differently. If you can not get out of the joint against the power struggles for children, it is time to seek the help of a family therapist. </p> <h3> yours and Their Each Other of </h3> <p> You can decide to have a baby with your new spouse. This will add another change in family dynamics. Do not be surprised if children do not jump for joy with you. If you created a stable structure reconstructed, the easier the transition will be. But you always want to prep the children what is happening and tend to their emotions and the issues around it. A baby could actually help create the closeness and connection between all members of the stepfamily. </p> <h3> The Ex-Factor </h3> <p> One of the biggest sources of problems of children after divorce is the failure of parents to keep their negative feelings or derogatory comments about their ex ( or their new spouse ex) for themselves. Keep yourself in check! Children feel bad only about themselves if you criticize their other parent. They feel stress if you two do not get along and fight too. </p> <p> As great as it would be if the homes of your child would be identical, it is quite unrealistic. Ignore things that do not really matter. You should not make an issue of anything that is not a safety issue. Your kids will adapt to the rules of each house. Be flexible and reasonable with your ex regarding tours and timeshares. </p> <h3> Can not we all get along? </h3> <p> Recognize that you and your children still need your own time together. Your children need to know that the "family of origin" is always special and not just a part of another large group. It is perfectly possible to do something on your own just as expected with your children and your spouse. </p> <p> Do not even try to create perfect equality between all children. It's impossible. Be as equal as you can and when you can. Help children cope with their perception of inequality and feelings like jealousy, which may arise. For example, if one of the stepchildren comes home with a new toy from the other parent, standardize and validate feelings jealous about that. </p> <p> On the other hand, do not try to "buy" your step-children love or try desperate attempts to get them to like you. This will probably backfire and does not work. You do not need to overindulge your biological children on the "divorce guilt." Similarly, it is both ineffective parenting strategies. </p> <p> A blended family is still a family, first and foremost. These days, families come in all shapes, sizes and styles. What makes a family is about connecting and love among and within trusted relationships genetics. You can make mistakes you can learn. You and your spouse are going through the learning curve together. You are better to be a partner, parents and in-laws, the happier and blended family </p> <p> </p> <p> <strong> online resource :. national stepfamily resource center </strong> </p> <p> <strong> Buy Amazon: </strong> <strong> <em> Blending Families: Merging households with children 8-18 </em> </strong>, <strong> [1945033Familles] successfully combining: Helping parents and children Navigating challenges while everyone ends up happy </em> or <em> Smart recomposed Marriage: the keys to success in the blended family </em> <em> </em> </strong> </p> <p> <strong> KEEP YOUR NEW MARRIAGE STRONG ... SIGN UP FOR MARRIAGE EMAIL WEEKLY NEWSLETTER TODAY! </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-41772760496230281692017-01-28T21:21:00.000-08:002017-01-28T21:21:10.016-08:00Join Joint Program FAQJoin Joint Program FAQ - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> February 5, 2016 </span>. </div> <b> Q. What is the registration joint program? </b> <br/> <b> A. </b> If you and your spouse are both active members of military service, whether in the same branch of the military or in separate branches, and two-year service retainability, you can apply through the joint program Register to be transferred to a place where you can live in the same residence. In the army, the common home program is called the Army Couples Program Married. <p> <b> Q. Are there safeguards being sold? </b> <br/> <b> A. </b> No. Although the military services of the United States is committed to maintaining military couples together if possible, assignments will initially be based on the needs of the military. </p> <p> <b> Q. How do we apply? </b> <br/> <b> A. </b> Each of you must complete an application (Join Joint Assignment Intent) and check that your spouse join codes intention and preferences correspondence assignment. </p> <p> <b> Q. What if we just married? </b> <br/> <b> A. </b> You may have to submit a certified copy of your marriage certificate and your birth certificates, driving licenses and social security cards. </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-83991782689859069192017-01-28T12:22:00.000-08:002017-01-28T12:22:06.341-08:00Not remarry before reading thisNot remarry before reading this - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:76.364%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/T/m/Remarriage.jpg" alt="Sean Murphy-Stone/Getty" width="385" height="294" class="" data-description="Don't Get Remarried Until You Read This" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Sean Murphy-Stone / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> July 17, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> If you are planning to remarry, especially when the mixture of families, you should consider the many possible challenges you may encounter. There are additional stressors in these scenarios can cause conflict between you and your new spouse. Here are some common concerns that newly married partners are likely to face and how to deal with them. </p> <p> <strong> emotional baggage from your previous marriage </strong> </p> <p> Old patterns and triggers relationship can easily occur. People often react to conflict predictably. You avoidant conflict? Disdainful? Do you turn quickly? Have you always the one to raise questions in your past relationship? maybe it burned you and has contributed to the failure of your first marriage. It is essential to bring new ways to resolve conflicts with your current marriage. This may require you to take a deep and meaningful look at your role in your previous marriage, and if your behavior contributed to this end. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> If it still brings about intense, negative emotions, there is a good chance that you will bring this "baggage" in your new marriage as well, especially when times are tough. Whatever you do, do not ignore your own red flags and ask for help sooner if the ghosts of the past continue to reappear. </p> <p> <strong> Finance </strong> </p> <p> Finance can cause many problems when combining families and households. A solid financial plan, discussed before making a commitment, is recommended. Discuss your budget, especially regarding children's needs. If your new spouse does not receive alimony or support is insufficient, you must be willing to assume some financial responsibility for children that are not yours. If you do not agree with this, it may cause conflict between you and your new spouse. Remember, children are victims of divorce and must not be put in the middle of adult financial disagreements. A financial advisor or counselor can guide you both, if you find that you still can not compromise on this issue. </p> <p> <strong> The extended family and in-laws </strong> </p> <p> Remarriage can create a more complicated situation with in-laws or extended family. These members of the extended family can experience the sadness of divorce, and happiness for the new marriage as well. Loyalty concerns can arise when there is an ongoing relationship with the former spouse due to joint custody. Be aware that others in the family can adjust to divorce a different rate than you, especially if you remarried quickly. It is very difficult to change what others think or feel about the situation, but you can strengthen your relationship with them over time. You can also discuss any concerns directly with parents and other family members. If these people are causing conflict in your marriage, you need to establish healthy boundaries and firm early on so that they understand they have to resolve their conflicting feelings without interfering in your new marriage. </p> <p> <strong> Parenting </strong> </p> <p> If you Blending your families during a new marriage, there now has children from a previous relationship (s), common children, or a mixture of both. Many second (and third) marriages fail because of constraints on children. All children have different physical and emotional needs. You may have two variables parenting philosophies. Your wedding is the basic relationship in the stepfamily and is the foundation of the family. Domestic rules define standards, expectations and consequences that are universal, fair and consistent for all children. A united front is still critical. Not all children will be as close to you and you can get along better with your own children that your new stepchildren. Know that this can also occur in traditional nuclear families. </p> <p> You and your spouse are a team, and the need to address the interactions with your children and extended family in this way. Maintain open communication without letting things pile up. Consider couples therapy if you can not seem to minimize conflicts on your own. You may even consider counseling before committing to marriage, even if things seem to go well, to ensure that you have a solid plan to deal with all the challenges that come your way. </p> <p> <em> <strong> Recommended reading available for purchase at Amazon: </strong> Wisdom of Step-Parenting: How to succeed where others fail, Smart Step-Family, Remarriage Adventure: Preparing for a life of love and happiness, the Blueprint remarriage </em> </p> <p> <strong> KEEP YOUR NEW MARRIAGE STRONG ... SIGN UP fOR MARRIAGE EMAIL WEEKLY NEWSLETTER TODAY! </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-52820234106465105472017-01-27T18:20:00.000-08:002017-01-27T18:20:00.151-08:00What kind of love do you feel in your relationship?What kind of love do you feel in your relationship? - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/x/l/Love.jpg" alt="Anthony Harvie-Stone/Getty" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="What Type of Love Are You Experiencing in Your Relationship?" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Anthony Harvie-Stone / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> February 13, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> "What is love?" is the most googled never question. Love is essential to our well-being and often makes life worth living. Most of us have a different definition if asked to define love. Few researchers have put forward a viable theory on the concept of love. The triangular theory of love was developed by psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg in the late 1980s and underwent popularity. His theory suggests that people can have varying degrees of intimacy, passion and commitment at any point in time. </p> <p> The first component of love, <em> privacy </em> involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. The second component, <em> passion </em>, involves feelings and desires that lead to physical attraction, romance, and sexual consumption. Finally, the third component <em> commitment </em>, include feelings that lead a person to stay with someone and move towards common goals. Finding a balance between the needs for sex and the needs of love is essential. </p> <p> The three components of the theory of Dr. Sternberg interact systemically, "ping" off of each other. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> there, seven types of love experiences can occur. "Types" of love may vary in a relationship as well. The types of love represented in the triangle are: infatuation, empty love, romantic love, companionate love, love conceit, and finally (the most ideal type), love consumed </p> <p> <em> Infatuation </em> is characterized by the desire and passion. He did not have enough time for a deeper sense of intimacy, romantic love or love consumed in the beginning of the relationship. Other forms of love can possibly develop after the infatuation stage makes up. The initial enthusiasm was and is often so powerful that people can "carry a torch" to the other, not quite knowing whether they have what it takes for maintenance, deep and lasting love. </p> <p> <em> empty love </em> is characterized by a commitment, but without passion or intimacy. Sometimes a strong love deteriorates into empty love. the opposite can happen as well. for example, an arranged marriage can start empty, but thrive in another form of love over time. </p> <p> <em> romantic love </em> people bond emotionally through intimacy and physical passion. partners this type of relationship have deep conversations that help them to know intimate details about each other. They enjoy a sexual passion and affection. These couples may be where the long-term commitment or future plans are still undecided. </p> <p> <em> love Companionate </em> is an intimate way, but not passionate love. It is stronger than friendship because there is a long term commitment. There is little or no sexual desire. It is often found in marriages where passion is dead, but the couple continues to have a deep affection or a strong bond together. This can also be seen as the love between close friends and family members. </p> <p> <em> love Obtuse </em> is characterized by a whirlwind marriage and court where the passion behind a commitment without the stabilizing influence of intimacy. We hear a lot about this among celebrities (such as Renee Zellweger and Kenny Chesney and Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett). We may even know people who have done this in our own circles, which we scratch our heads wondering how they could get married on impulse. Unfortunately, these marriages often do not work and when they do, we chalk up to "luck". </p> <p> <em> Consummate love </em> is the full form of love and represents an ideal relationship. That's the kind of love that we associate with "perfect couple." These couples have great sex several years in their relationship. They can not imagine someone else. They also can not be truly happy without their partners. They manage to overcome differences and stress factors facing together. According to Dr. Sternberg, however, the consummate love may be more difficult to maintain than to achieve, as the components must love be put into action. We have heard that "love is a verb" and this is what Dr Sternberg means. Without behavior and expression, passion and lost love can return to the type companionate instead. </p> <p> Dr. Sternberg's theory of love is one among many, but it is one of the frames defining the most popular and cited. Whatever love is or could be, people recognize the value both to love and be loved, and realize that life is much better with him than without </p> <p> <strong> Source :. </strong> Sternberg, RJ (1986) <em> A triangular theory of love </em>. Psychological Review, 93, 119-135. </p> <p> </p> <p> <strong> <em> SIGN UP FOR MARRIAGE EMAIL WEEKLY NEWSLETTER TODAY! </em> </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-79581893177002692382017-01-27T15:19:00.000-08:002017-01-27T15:19:02.191-08:00Tips for a Healthy Long Distance MarriageTips for a Healthy Long Distance Marriage - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> April 14, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> Being in a long distance marriage creates complications and can make a more difficult marriage. Here are some tips to keep your marriage strong, even if you do not live under the same roof </p> <p> <strong> Difficulty :. </strong> Average </p> <p> <strong> Time required: </strong> Varies </p> <p> <strong> Here's how: </strong> </p> <ol> <li> The key, as in all the relationship is communication. Keep the lines of communication open on a daily basis. Send photos, another Skype, send text messages, short videos online or cloud computing. </li> <li> It is essential that you are both committed to each other and believe in your marriage really. </li> <li> Your long distance marriage will fail if there is a lack of trust between you. </li> <li> Although you are of each other, make time for each other. You can do so by sending a love letter, an email, write in a journal, day dreaming of your spouse, or to have a chat online or via text messages. </li> <li> Share your expectations about being apart. also share your expectations about being together again. </li> </ol> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ol class="cb-split"> <li> Be honest about your concerns and fears about your separation. </li> <li> Consider having a daily dialogue with each other. </li> <li> keep a daily journal. </li> <li> Add another scented pillow or a shirt to help keep your presence with them. </li> <li> Plan a trip, a few days together, or a fun activity (other than sex) to when the two of you are back together. </li> <li> Enhance your online communication with electronic maps, music, poems, movies, and stories. </li> <li> with more opportunities to watch movies and online TV shows, you two could watch a show, then talk, talk, or text on it with the other. </li> <li> Send care packages each. other often </li> <li> Play online together </li> <li> Surprise each other from time to time with a phone call </li> </ol> <p> <strong> Tips: .. </strong> </p> <ol> <li> do not assume that infidelity occurs because of your physical separation. Most long-distance marriages should not face this heartache because of the love and commitment of spouses feel for each other. </li> <li> Since you can not read another's nonverbal communication, symbols or words to use or happy faces to describe your thoughts better. </li> <li> When you're back together, do not rush to get things done around the house immediately. Allow the spouse to return to have a little time to adjust to being home </li> </ol> <p> <strong> What you need :. </strong> </p> <ul> <li> Commitment </li> <li> Communication </li> <li> Sense of humor </li> <li> Trust </li> </ul> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-11861060238697497552017-01-27T12:18:00.000-08:002017-01-27T12:18:03.263-08:00Military Family Support Information - Air Force, Marines, Coast GuardMilitary Family Support Information - Air Force, Marines, Coast Guard - <div class="published"> Update <span itemprop="dateModified"> February 5, 2016 </span>. </div> "Justice At a recent" Memory of the chaplain, 'where the army is trying to prepare his soldiers for reintegration into the world, the officer cited statistics of the army indicated 30 percent of spouses believe deploying their wedding night the Advocate Corps Army General statistics show the divorce rate among soldiers as comparable to civilian rates -.. about 50 percent "Quote Cuck Yarbrorough of" Iraq No moon honey couples "via Newhouse.com. <p> <sub> The Office of the Special Assistant has provided the following information for military personnel and families. </sub> </p> <p class="cb-split"> </p> <p> <sub> Army, Navy <br/> AIR FORCE, MARINE, COAST GUARD <br/> NATIONAL GUARD RESERVES <br/> ALL SERVICES <br/> rights, SERVICES sales </sub> </p> <p> <b> ARMY </b> </p> <p> Army Community and support center for families <br/> the Army Community & family support Center serves as headquarters for MWR Army (morale, welfare and recreation). </p> <p> Army Family Action Plan <br/> AFAP the program is seeking comments on the critical issues that affect the welfare of the soldiers, families of the military, retirees and DA civilians. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> All components are included; active duty, Army National Guard and Army Reserves. AFAP issues are solicited directly from the army constituents through annual conferences in the facilities, the main commands of the army, and HQDA. AFAP Conference the results are reported to the leaders that ensure issues are worked toward resolution. </p> <p> Army Family Team Building <br/> Army Family Team Building is an organization run by volunteers that provides training and knowledge to spouses and family members to support the total effort of the Army. AFTB mission is to educate and train all of America's Army in the knowledge, skills and attitudes to prepare our families for the army to move successfully into the future. </p> <p> <b> NAVY </b> </p> <p> Support Division families fleet <br/> Support Division of the Fleet family and provides support to sailors, families and communities providing policy guidance, the field support, resources and information services to people in need, their business partners, the chain of command and their field activities. </p> <div id="adsense2" adsense-numlinks="2" adsense-displaylabel="true" class="adsense-slot adsense ads-half"> </div> <p class="cb-split"> They do this through planning, supervision, advocacy and research. </p> <p> moral, Headquarters wellness and leisure <br/> The Navy MWR administers a varied entertainment program, social and community support activities on the facilities of the US Navy in the world. Their mission is to provide quality support and recreational services that contribute to the conservation, preparation and mental well-being, physical and emotional sailors and their families. </p> <p> Marine Family Advocate Program <br/> This site is dedicated to support the volunteers who make up the professional naval team Ombudsman. This includes mediators, members of the Assembly Ombudsman and staff of Naval Services Family Line. </p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-37098163040156885712017-01-26T21:17:00.000-08:002017-01-26T21:17:00.877-08:00We have much to learn from same sexWe have much to learn from same sex - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/u/l/same-sex-couple.jpg" alt="same-sex relationships - David Jakle-Image Source/Getty" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="We Have a Lot to Learn From Same-Sex Relationships" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> David Jakle -image Source / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> August 29, 2015 </span>. </div> <p> In a landmark decision, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry in this country. Besides being historically denied access to legal recognition as married couples, same-sex couples were also subjected to insidious discrimination. Yet, lesbians and gays couples, mostly had the same relationship goals that people are straight. They also face similar relationship issues that partners are straight. In several areas, however, they do a better job of dealing with these stressors. Although more clinical research is needed, we have some data showing straight couples can acquire social skills successfully to these same-sex unions. </p> <p> <strong> Role of equality </strong> </p> <p> Same-sex couples do not automatically slide in typical roles, stereotyped. They divide tasks and tasks based on skill level or interest. They also tend to more mundane chores together. Their relationships are naturally more egalitarian. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> This is a fight that straight couples frequently encounter. </p> <p> <strong> Sexuality </strong> </p> <p> Same-sex couples do what they want to do sexually. There is less inhibition based on the prescribed gender roles and what society thinks is appropriate. They are more inclined to explore the full spectrum of sexual pleasure. They also communicate their desires in the room easily. Masters and Johnson study found gay couples were less focused on orgasm and more focused on fun and excitement. They take their time and lots of emotional connection during sex. In other words, they do not have sexual "hang up" as often as straight couples. </p> <p> <strong> The fighting and conflict </strong> </p> <p> Same-sex couples face the same ups and downs and the stressors affecting heterosexual couples. However, they are better able to manage conflicts and disagreements. Studies by the Gottman Institute found that same-sex couples are more positive face conflicts. couples related to straight couples, gay and lesbians use more humor, affection and honesty when they set up a concern, and LGBTQ partners are often more receptive to these discussions. Same-sex couples have also been found less likely to take things personally and more likely to be optimistic after a disagreement. Overall, they are also less likely to use hostile tactics and control when arguing. There seems to be more fairness and sharing power in these relationships compared to heterosexual couples. </p> <p> <strong> Parenting </strong> </p> <p> Research has shown that children of same-sex couples, whether adopted or biological, fare no worse than children of heterosexual couples on mental health social functioning, school performance and several other life success measures. They can be considered "better parents" overall that gays and lesbians choose to be parents. They do not become parents by accident. They took a decision of conscience to be a parent and must often go through difficult means such as adoption, artificial insemination or surrogacy, to achieve this goal. When gays and lesbians become parents, they are highly motivated, involved and committed. Moreover, their children are more open-minded and tolerant. These children had solid models for equitable relationships, as well. </p> <p> The same-sex couples, in general, operate similarly to heterosexual couples. There may be a thing or two same-sex couples can learn heterosexual couples, but there is an absence of any significant research on this topic at this time. Now that same-sex couples can legally marry anywhere in the United States, it is likely that several comparative studies will be conducted. Meanwhile, it is really worth continuing to explore what makes successful relationships, regardless of sexual or gender orientation. Whether in terms of gender roles, sexuality, conflict or parenting, we have good data to show that there is room for all couples to acquire knowledge and develop skills to thrive as a couple. Same-sex couples have much to offer in this area </p> <p> <strong> Source </strong> :. Gottman, J. M, et al. (03). Correlates of relationship dissolution gay and lesbians relationship satisfaction and couples. Journal of Homosexuality, 45 (1). </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-10225311149067356332017-01-25T18:16:00.000-08:002017-01-25T18:16:00.178-08:00Forced marriage DefinitionForced marriage Definition - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> February 6, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> <strong> Definition :. </strong> </p> <p> A forced marriage is a marriage that is done under duress and without the full and informed and free consent will of both parties </p> <p> Being under duress includes pressure both physical and emotional. Some victims of forced marriages are wrong by going to another country by their families. Victims are plagued by a forced marriage by deception, abduction, coercion, fear, and incentives. </p> <p> A forced marriage can be between children, a child and an adult, or adult. Forced marriages are not limited to women and girls, boys and men are also forced to marry against their will. </p> <p> A forced marriage is considered domestic violence. As one of our readers (AC) said, "On the international perspective forced marriage is considered a form of human trafficking and constitutes a serious violation of human rights". </p> <p> The victims of forced marriages often physical violence. rape, kidnapping, torture, false imprisonment and slavery, sexual abuse, mental and emotional abuse and sometimes murder </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> <strong> Examples: </strong> "no marriage shall be legally entered into without the free and full consent of both parties, such consent to be expressed by them in person after publicity and in the presence of the competent authority to perform marriages and witnesses, as prescribed by law "<br/> Source :. Convention on consent to marriage, minimum age for marriage and Registration of marriages. Office of the High Commissioner for human rights. </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-46599504180495657492017-01-25T15:15:00.000-08:002017-01-25T15:15:01.625-08:00Prison MarriagePrison Marriage <div class="content-img-wrapper"> - <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/E/g/86485145.jpg" alt="Man visiting woman in prison - Thinkstock Images/Stockbyte/Getty Images" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="Prison Marriage" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Thinkstock Images / Stockbyte / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> by Sheri Stritof </p> <p> the divorce rate among couples where one spouse is incarcerated for a year or more is 80% for men and nearly 100% for women. That does not leave many couples in this situation with great hopes of their marriage work. </p> <blockquote> "Between the arrest of a married man and the end of his first year in prison, 80 percent of marriages split up, Mr. Grant said for female prisoners, the divorce rate is more close to 100 percent, he said "<br/> Source: Rick Lyman,". .. wedding Programs Try to instill Bliss and stability behind bars ", NYTimes.com, 16/04/05 </blockquote> <p> Judee Reeves wrote in 1994, "prisoners' families have been called the" hidden victims of crime "(Carlson and Cervera, 1992, p.5). When a crime is committed, there are victims other than the victim (s) primary These secondary victims include families of the main victim and another group often overlooked victims -.. family members of the person who committed the crime families of prisoners are often neglected in the research and design in social programs, but many suffer devastating consequences as a result of the imprisonment of a hand. " </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> Some prisons host seminars for married inmates and their spouses. Most of these programs a day or two to focus on improving relationships, communication, conflict management, and self-awareness. </p> <p> So most spouses who are left at home suffer from a feeling of being an outcast, guilt, shame, loneliness, financial distress and sexual frustration. Phoning can be expensive. There is even the stress of visiting room procedures that many prisons require families. </p> <p> The feeling of being demoralized begins even before a loved one is sent to prison. About 50% of marriages involving a possible end of sentence in separation or divorce before an incarcerated spouse. </p> <p> From the research we have done on the Internet, this is a marriage aspect that seems to have been very little research or study. It is certainly one that needs more attention and support. We have friends who have presented workshops and seminars to couples in prison. They said it was one of the most rewarding experiences of their lives. Have any of you have had that experience - either as a presenter or participant? What are your thoughts and feelings about this? </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-49747557992992663562017-01-24T21:12:00.000-08:002017-01-24T21:12:00.141-08:00See if your state allows Cousins get marriedSee if your state allows Cousins get married - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/M/h/170560393.jpg" alt="Man Kissing Girlfriend On Cheek At The Beach - Cavan Images/Taxi/Getty Images" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="See If Your State Allows Cousins to Marry" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Cavan Images / Taxi / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <b> please Note: </b> The information in this article was accurate when it was published. the requirements of state and county marriage license change often. The information below is indicative only and should not be considered legal advice. <p> It is important to verify all the information from your marriage license or local county clerk before making plans for marriage or travel. </p> <p> Please inform us of any oversights or errors </p> <p> Note: .. All states allow marriage of cousins </p> <b> A </b> <br/> <li> Alabama: cousins, yes. <br/> </li> <li> Alaska: cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Arizona :. cousins, yes, only if they are of a certain age or can not have children. Half of cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Arkansas :. No <p> <b> B </b> </p> <p> <b> C </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> California cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Colorado :. cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Connecticut: .. cousins, yes <p> <b> D </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Delaware: No <br/> </li> <li> District of Columbia. cousins, yes <p> <b> E </b> </p> <p> <b> F </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Florida cousins, yes <p> <b> G </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> .: Georgia cousins, yes <p> <b> H </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Hawaii .. cousins, yes <p> <b> I </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Idaho: no <br/> </li> <li> Illinois. cousins, yes, only if they are of a certain age or can not have children <br/> </li> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <li> Indiana :. First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are of a certain age or can not have children <br/> </li> <li> Iowa: no <p> <b> J </b> </p> <p> <b> K </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Kansas: half of cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Kentucky. No <p> <b> L </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Louisiana :. Marriage between first cousins is not allowed <p> <b> M </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Maine: cousins, yes, only if they are of a certain age or can not have children, or if they get genetic counseling <br/> </li> <li> Maryland: .. cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Massachusetts: cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Michigan. No <br/> </li> <li> Minnesota: No, unless the indigenous culture of the couple allows marriages between cousins <br/> </li> <li> Mississippi: the adopted cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Missouri. No <br/> </li> <li> Montana. Half of cousins, yes <p> <b> N </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Nebraska: Half of cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Nevada :. Half of cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> New Hampshire. No <br/> </li> <li> New Jersey cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> New Mexico. cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> New York: .. cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> North Carolina cousins, yes. Double cousins are allowed to marry <br/> </li> <li> North Dakota :. No <p> <b> O </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Ohio: No <br/> </li> <li> Oklahoma: Half of cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Oregon: .. the adopted cousins, yes <p> <b> P </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Pennsylvania: No <p> <b> Q </b> </p> <p> <b> R </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Rhode Island. cousins, yes <p> <b> S </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> SC: cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> South Dakota . No <p> <b> T </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Tennessee: cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Texas: No. <p> <b> U </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Utah: cousins, yes, only if they are of a certain age or can not bear children <p> <b> V </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Vermont :. First cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Virginia :. cousins, yes <p> <b> W </b> <br/> </p> </li> <li> Washington :. No <br/> </li> <li> West Virginia: the adopted cousins, yes <br/> </li> <li> Wisconsin: .. First cousins once removed, yes, only if a elderly or can not have children <br/> </li> <li> Wyoming: no <p> <b> X </b> </p> <p> <b> Y </b> </p> <p> <b> Z </b> </p> </li> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-76797202108336669742017-01-24T18:11:00.000-08:002017-01-24T18:11:03.313-08:00Child Brides problem and forced marriagesChild Brides problem and forced marriages - <div class="published"> Update <span itemprop="dateModified"> October 19, 2015 </span>. </div> <p> Throughout the world, the problem of the beginning, the children of forced marriage is considered a violation of fundamental human rights. It has been estimated that 49 countries have an important problem of the bride. </p> <p> Here is an overview of the problem of the wives and children of the solutions to the issue of early marriage. </p> <h3> Say no to child marriage </h3> out of the tradition of marrying young is difficult. These girls often do not receive support from their families to say no to marriage. <p> In addition, the cultural, economic and religious communities where they live make it almost impossible for girls to be free to marry early. </p> <h3> The Brides of problem children and forced marriages </h3> <ul> <li> <b> Egypt, Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Ethiopia, Pakistan, India and the Middle east: </b> in the rural villages of these countries many girls are rarely allowed out of their homes, unless it is to work in the fields or to marry. <p> These uneducated girls are often married at the age of 11. Some families allow girls who are only 7 years old to marry. It is very rare for a girl reaching the age of 16 and not married. </p> </li> </ul> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ul class="cb-split"> </ul> <blockquote class="no"> </blockquote> <li> in <b> Afghanistan </b>, an estimated 60 and 80 percent of marriages are forced marriages. </li> <li> Although the legal age for marriage in <b> Egypt </b> is 16, and <b> India and Ethiopia </b>, the age is 18 years, these laws are often ignored. </li> <ul> <li> <b> England and the United States: </b> The issue of child brides also reached other countries like England and the United States, where secrets are illegal marriages performed. </li> <li> <p> The Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP) found in a study, marriage is a solution adolescence? that marriages by teenagers in the United States jumped dramatically in the 190s </p> <p> The awareness of early forced marriage and sexual abuse of girls in the United States has been increased by the rescue many children living on a ranch in April 08 belonging to a polygamist sect in Texas. </p> </li> </ul> <div id="adsense2" adsense-numlinks="2" adsense-displaylabel="true" class="adsense-slot adsense ads-half"> </div> <ul class="cb-split"> </ul> <h3> United Nations Report on the violation of fundamental human rights of children Brides </h3> as "Backgrounder: marriage early "(page 4), a report by the United Nations, these violent early marriage unions fundamental rights of the girls by putting them into a life of isolation, service, lack of education, health problems, and abuse <blockquote class="no"> UNICEF document states: ". UNICEF estimates that, because marriage under the age of 18 can threaten children's rights (including the right to education, leisure, health, freedom of expression, and freedom discrimination) <b> how best to protect children's rights is to set a minimum age limit of 18 years for marriage. </b> <p> UNICEF is opposed to forced marriage at any age, where the notion of consent is non-existent and the views of bride or groom are ignored, especially when those involved are old. " </p> </blockquote> <h3> problems Awarded child marriage </h3> <h3> solutions and programs to prevent child marriage </h3>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-28744260146235943642017-01-24T12:13:00.000-08:002017-01-24T12:13:04.748-08:00Definition and examples of open marriagesDefinition and examples of open marriages - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> February 18, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> <b> Definition :. </b> An open marriage is the term often used to describe a marriage relationship where the husband and wife have no reservation to another being sexually involved with other people </p> <p> Although the book 1972 <i> open marriage </i>, is often seen as the source for the term open marriage, George and Nena O'Neill briefly mentioned extramarital sex in marriage. </p> <blockquote> Mo'Nique about open marriage "means open, you know what, let me tell you my secret, my fantasies, my thoughts, so that way there are no surprises ... I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney may I.?. having sex outside my marriage with Sidney Yes Sid could have sex outside his marriage Yes me This is not a deal-breaker "<br/> Source: .. Lauren Sher. "Mo'Nique Sex outside marriage:" This does not a deal-breaker '. "ABCNews.go.com. 04/03/2010 <p> Shirley MacLaine on her open marriage :. "I was married for 30 years, but he lived in Japan I lived with many other men ... Men have always wanted to get married in my experience .. So I stayed married to Steve that I would not marry "<br/> Source :. Sarah Hampson. "At 74 years, Shirley MacLaine ..." <i> Globe and Mail </i>.. 14/09/08 </p> </blockquote> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> <b> Alias: </b> responsible non-monogamy, open relationship, polyamory </p> <p> <b> Examples: </b> Will Smith on the open marriage, "in our marriage vows, we did not say" forsaking all others. "the vow that we made is that you will never hear that I did something after the fact ... If it came down to it, then one spouse can say to the other "Look, I have to have sex with someone I m not going if you do not agree - but please approve" <br/> Source :.. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Marriage Profile </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-34705069330791782772017-01-23T21:08:00.000-08:002017-01-23T21:08:10.366-08:00Convenience weddingConvenience wedding - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> by Sheri Stritof </p> <p> <b> definition: </b> a marriage of convenience is a marriage between two people for practical or financial reasons and not for the or love. privacy </p> <p> Although illegal in many countries of the world, the couples decide to have a marriage of convenience for immigration purposes </p> <p> <b> Examples :. </b> widows of former West often the United States agreed to marriages of convenience in order to survive the difficulties of colonization in 1800 years </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-77350640166093625342017-01-23T15:10:00.000-08:002017-01-23T15:10:01.110-08:00How to marry someone in the prisonHow to marry someone in the prison <div class="content-img-wrapper"> - <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/N/g/86485149.jpg" alt="Inmate pressing hand against glass with visitor - Thinkstock Images/Stockbyte/Getty Images" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="How to Marry Someone in Prison" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Thinkstock Images / Stockbyte / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> by Sheri Stritof </p> <p> Before taking this step, realizing that the divorce rate among couples where one spouse is incarcerated for a year or more was reported in 1996 by the Aleph Institute as high as 85%. Marry a prisoner means that you will be jumping through many legal circles and perhaps experience a lot of grief </p> <p> <b> Difficulty :. </b> Hard </p> <p> <b> Time required: </b> varies </p> <p> <b> This is how :. </b> </p> <ol> <li> <b> Regulation </b> for marrying a prisoner varies from prison to the institution </li> <li> <b> marriage Packet request. </b> Ask your fiancé apply for detained for a wedding package. Once the forms are filled out by you two, you will need to return to the prison with the requested fees. (Approximately $ 150- $ 175 per term) </li> <li> <b> Documentation required. </b> You will need documents that you are of legal age to marry, you are a citizen in the country that you want to marry, and perhaps a copy of your birth certificate or other ID </li> <li> <b> coordinator of family visits </b> will probably be your contact to organize the wedding once approval has been received to marry a prisoner. </li> </ol> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ol class="cb-split"> <li> <b> Choosing a Leader. </b> Prison should give you a list of accredited pastors choose. You will need to know in advance what their fees are and be prepared to pay for the ceremony with a money order. </li> <li> <b> Other costs. </b> Ask what the cost of the marriage certificate too, because you'll need a warrant for that too. </li> <li> <b>. witness </b> you will need a witness to bring a guest who is on the list of approved visitors of your fiancé. Or you can use one of the inmates who works in the area of the visit. </li> <li> <b> Time Alone Together. </b> According to the regulations of the installation of the prison, you may be allowed time together after the ceremony for the wedding photos. and a short private visit with another </li> </ol> <p> <b> Tips: </b> </p> <ol> <li> chaplain at the prison will be a good source of information on the getting married there. </li> <li> If your relationship with a prisoner was by mail or email correspondence, do not marry! </li> <li> Before getting married, talk with other prisoners who were married so you have an understanding of the difficulty of this role could be for you. </li> <li> Know that upon release from prison your spouse, both of you will each have to make major adjustments life changing. </li> <li> <b> ultimately. </b> We do not recommend marrying someone who is in prison. If your love for each other is real, you can wait </li> </ol> <p> <b> What you need :. </b> </p> <ul> <li> Witness </li> <li> terms </li> <li> prison Permissions </li> <li> proof of age </li> <li> proof of citizenship </li> </ul> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-66047554268328971302017-01-23T12:09:00.000-08:002017-01-23T12:09:02.504-08:00Program Army fort Couples Bonds military assistance WeddingProgram Army fort Couples Bonds military assistance Wedding - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:74.805%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/militaryfamily/1/W/T/0/-/-/Army-Strong-Bonds-Couples_Participants.jpg" alt="Participants in the Army's Strong Bonds Couples Program - Photo by Maj. Jesse Stalder, 412th Public Affairs Office. Photo courtesy of U.S. Army." width="385" height="288" class="" data-description="The Army's Strong Bonds Couples Program Helps Military Marriages: Capt. Jared Corsi, 926th Engineer Brigade and his wife, Katherine during the 81st Regional Support Command's Army Strong Bonds Retreat at Hilton Head, South Carolina." > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> Capt. Jared Corsi, 926th Engineer Brigade and his wife Katherine for the obligations of the Command army strong regional support 81st Retreat at Hilton Head, South Carolina. <span class="credit"> Photo by Maj. Jesse Stalder, 412th Public Affairs Office. Photo courtesy of the US Army. </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <span class="by-line-author-img"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/81537.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> </span> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> <span class="muted heading"> By <span itemprop="name"> Kim Wilson </span> </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> military Families experts </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> by Kim Wilson </p> <p> military couples today face multiple deployments, many PCS moves, training and many other items related to military life - and that is in addition to normal daily responsibilities of parenthood, maintaining a household, community / volunteer work, management a career and / or goals related to education. In these circumstances, even the healthiest of marriages may feel tense. </p> <p> In an effort to help servicemembers and their spouses to deal with the various requirements imposed on military marriages, the army provides marriage enrichment retreats and courses by their strong Couples Bonds Program. </p> <p> All retreats and courses are conducted by military chaplains (even if no programming is religious) and are held in an atmosphere of relaxation, such as a hotel or resort. </p> <p> The program is designed to give military couples a chance to relax and reconnect while learning the tools and techniques of communication problems resolution. For couples, strong links using PREP (Prevention and Improvement Program of the relationship), which is based on the idea that "a lot of marriages fail because the cut has not the tools to deal with important Issos that come with a close relationship. 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This is wrong. </p> <p> The program is designed to improve, enhance and help most marriages, regardless if they are in trouble, healthy or somewhere in between. In addition, retreats and courses are available to servicemembers in all branches and components (active, reserve and Guard) and their spouses. </p> <p> Whether you've been married less than a year or are about to mark your 30 wedding anniversary, couples Obligations strong program is open to all military couples looking to improve and enrich their marriage. </p> <p> </p> <h3> Not just for weddings All </h3> <p> Strong Bonds also programs for single soldiers. Given that the majority of soldiers single will marry in active service, the programs are designed to help them do that the single Soldier Strong Bonds called "good choice of relationships." The curriculum for singles is called pICK (premarital interpersonal choice and knowledge) or, less formally, "How to avoid Marrying a Jerk or Jerkette." </p> <p> There is also the Strong Family Bonds program, which is designed to help family members cope better with the constant cycle of deployments and redeployments of military life in general. </p> <p> </p> <h3> is there an attendance fee? </h3> <p> No. assistant chaplain Sgt. 1st Class Daniel L. Roberts explains: "All costs for the strong Bond pensions are paid through funds allocated, so there is a special allocation of dollars. For marriage retreats, both the soldier and spouse are reimbursed for travel expenses, accommodation and per diem, "he said in a statement governance issued by the command of the 108th training. </p> <p> </p> <h3> Does the program work? </h3> <p> According to research by the Army, strong links to the programs work. participants have a lower rate of 50 % in the divorce and increase marital satisfaction. and more than nine out of ten participants say the program has been helpful and useful. </p> <p> </p> <h3> Find a solid program couples Bonds </h3> <p> There are several ways to find a next strongest couples Bonds program. interested couples, singles or families can check with their unit, check the calendar here, or visit the find an event page on strong Web Site Obligations the army. </p> <p> </p> <p> <em> Updated by Armin Brott </em> <em>, December 2015 </em> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-931045340677115962017-01-21T18:07:00.000-08:002017-01-21T18:07:04.365-08:00Newlyweds Warning: Are you making these mistakes socialNewlyweds Warning: Are you making these mistakes social - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:62.338%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/r/m/Newlywed.jpg" alt="Oscar Wong/Getty" width="385" height="240" class="" data-description="Attention Newlyweds: Are You Making These Social Mistakes?" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Oscar Wong / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> December 10, 2015 </span>. </div> <p> Congratulations on your wedding! Now that the ink is dry on the marriage certificate, the honeymoon has been taken and all the wedding gifts was carefully placed in your new home, you are probably ready to sit down and settle into married life. It's all good, but many newlyweds are serious social mistakes after their marriage, and these mistakes can cost you your friends, and in the worst circumstances, your wedding. </p> <p> Here are three common social errors that honeymooners tend to do: </p> <p> <strong> Error # 1: Alienating Your Friends </strong> </p> <p> now that you are married you want to share the happy news with everyone on your friends list. You probably want to shout from the roof of each social media site in existence, but tread lightly with these things. Flooding your friends with messages about marriage and wedding photos plethora can quickly roll their eyes. Keep it short and sweet. Your good friends that you are married and are happy for you, but that does not mean they want to see 8,000 photos of your wedding, broken into pieces of 30 frames each, one day for next year. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> While your wedding could be the epicenter of your existence, this is not something that your friends are interested in. Take a step back and determine if you become one of those annoying "facebookers" and dismiss the photos or some time </p> <p> <strong> error # 2 :. I became a We (far) </strong> </p> <p> You are newly married and draped in a veritable cloud of love and marital bliss. This is great news, but do not let your happiness take away your individuality. Believe it or not, married couples are allowed to have individualized thoughts. You can think of something without turning it into a "We believe ..." all the time. Make sure you make some time to do things you love separately from your spouse and remember to form your own opinion and let your loved one out. Research shows spending some time apart and having individual interests is a good thing for weddings, both early in them and later on the road </p> <p> <strong> Error # 3: You complain the in-laws </strong> </p> <p> So perhaps the mother of your husband is not your cup of tea. Maybe you have always known but neglected to all marital bliss promises coming down the pipeline. Now that you are officially married, you understand the need for your husband to call his mother when he wakes up is incredibly boring. While you might be tempted to talk about, or even argue that his mother is domineering, this is often not a good idea. It is also wise not to complain about your in-laws to your friends. Whether you have sent in the sky laws, or have inherited a brother-monster, it does not really matter. You must coexist with these people and berating his mother, father or brother who can not hold a job that will probably not make him anything spectacular for your wedding. </p> <p> Unless you sincerely believe his family members are toxic, you should just red ears. Or, sit down for a serious talk with your spouse about limits concerns of a mature and diplomatically. Remember, you do not have to love them like they are your own family, but you should definitely be civil and tolerate for the sake of your marriage. </p> <p> Although these three mistakes are not obvious, they can certainly be problematic. Getting married is an incredible journey and there is a "learning curve" for the new life you are creating together. Do not be part of these social blunders along the way. </p> <p> <strong> <em> newly married? Maintain YOUR MARRIAGE ... STRONG SIGN UP MARRIAGE WEEKLY NEWSLETTER! </em> </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-80568763276102595792017-01-21T15:06:00.000-08:002017-01-21T15:06:04.307-08:00What kind of wedding do you Have?What kind of wedding do you Have? <div class="content-img-wrapper"> - <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/r/n/marriage-cake-toppers.jpg" alt="marriage models - Hero Images/Creative RF/Getty" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="What Type of Marriage Do You Have?" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Hero Images / Creative RF / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> May 15, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> <strong> What is your wedding like? </strong> </p> <p> Here is a look at the models of marriage as defined by the authors Judith Wallerstein and E. Mavis Hetherington. </p> <p> If you talk to people about this type of marriage, they probably they say or they have a traditional wedding or companionate </p> <p> However, there are a few other all models in fact of marriage, including marriages of your own parents and grandparents </p> <h3> marriage patterns Judith Wallerstein: .. </h3> <p> </p> <ul> <li> <strong> traditional </strong> -. In this type of marriage, the husband is the breadwinner and the woman is the homemaker homebased </li> <li> <strong> companionate </strong> - the companionate unions are based on spouses with common interests in their career and children </li> <li> <strong> Rescue </strong> -. The focus of this type of marriage seems to be able to heal the damage of a dysfunctional childhood or earlier hurt and harm relations. It is often a marriage of walking wounded </li> <li> <strong> Romantic </strong> - .. For these married couples, the initial romantic spark is vital and exciting and for them, sensuality continues through decades together </li> </ul> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ul class="cb-split"> </ul> <h3> Here are some quotes on these types of marriages <em> The good marriage: how and why The tough love </em> by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee </h3> <blockquote> <strong> description of a traditional wedding: .. </strong> "... has at its base a clear division of roles and responsibilities The woman supports home and family while the man is the main employee "</blockquote> <blockquote> <p> <strong> Danger of traditional marriages: </strong>." ... focus so closely on the education of children as partners see each other only as parents, they dread the moment when the children leave home, knowing that they will be left with little in common. " </p> </blockquote> <blockquote> <strong> Description of a companionate marriage: </strong> "..." the most common form of marriage among younger couples ... it reflects the social changes of the past two decades . At its core is friendship, equality, and the movement system of women's value, with its corollary that the role of the man, too, needs to change. An important factor in the companionate marriage is the attempt to balance the serious emotional investment partners in the workplace with their emotional investment in the relationship and children "</blockquote> <blockquote> <p> <strong> Danger weddings companionate .: </strong> "... it can degenerate into a brother and sister relationship. Invested primarily in their respective careers, husband and wife are seen only fleetingly, sharing a bed with little or no sex or emotional intimacy . "</p> </blockquote> <p> More about Companionate marriage </p> <blockquote> <strong> description of a life wedding: </strong>" the healing that takes place during the marriage is the central theme. "</blockquote> <blockquote> <p> <strong> Danger rescue marriages: </strong>" instead of healing, a new forum for replay past trauma. Spouses have the ability to hurt and abuse each other ... the hopes of rescue and comfort that leads to marriage are buried and forgotten "</p> <p> <strong> Description of a romantic wedding </strong> ".. .. a lasting relationship with sexual passion. A couple in a romantic wedding often shares the sense that they were destined to be together "</p> </blockquote> <blockquote> <p> <strong> Danger romantic weddings: </strong>". ... Husband and wife freezing in a self-absorbed child concern with each other, turning his back to the world, including children. "<em> T </em> <br/> </p> </blockquote> <p> </p> <h3> E Marriage Models Mavis Hetherington: </h3> <p> </p> <ul> <li> <strong> traditional </strong> - the partners have clearly defined roles and the relationship is in danger if one spouse decides to change their role as both agree with their roles, marriages have a low divorce rate </li> <li> <strong>-cohesive Indivuated </strong> -.. these couples believe in combining gender with privacy for personal freedom Renewal, affection, support and camaraderie are important to those people whose weddings have a low divorce rate </li> <li> <strong> Pursuer-Distancer </strong>. - the most common type of marriage with a spouse is away and the other wanting more privacy. this type of relationship has the highest divorce rate </li> <li> <strong> Triggered </strong> -. These couples, with a low priority on privacy and a strong belief in independence, drifting along together for years before their marriage crumbles. </li> <li> <strong> Operatic </strong> - These volatile relationships often have heated battles followed by passionate love. As they are prone to violence, both emotional and physical, they have a high divorce rate. </li> </ul> <p> <strong> <em> * Updated article by Marni Feuerman </em> </strong> </p> <p> <em> <strong> KEEP YOUR WEDDING ... STRONG INSCRIVEZ- OUR NEWSLETTER HERE! </strong> </em> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-24693608697473739462017-01-21T12:05:00.000-08:002017-01-21T12:05:00.268-08:00How to cope after the death of your spouseHow to cope after the death of your spouse - <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage expert </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <p> the death of a spouse is one of the hardest things you will ever accept in life. </p> <p> <b> Difficulty: </b> Hard </p> <p> <b> Time required: </b> Varies </p> <p> <b> Here's how: </b> </p> <ol> <li> Be good for you. </li> <li> Eat well and avoid too much alcohol, drugs, caffeine, sugar or tobacco. </li> <li> regular exercise, but take the time to sit down and breathe deeply. </li> <li> Maintain a regular schedule and get out of the house now and then. </li> <li> Cry. </li> <li> mail response and condolence letters. It's part of the healing process. </li> <li> Start a journal. </li> <li> Join a support group. </li> <li> Ask the funeral home for 6-8 copies of the death certificate. </li> <li> Keep Social Security, bank account and handy insurance numbers. </li> <li> Set up a file for copies of everything that has to do with the estate, including the notes of telephone conversations. </li> <li> deal with emptying drawers and closets. Do not let someone else do it for you. It is a necessary part of the grieving process. It may be helpful to have someone with you who can understand and share your memories and stories. </li> </ol> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ol class="cb-split"> <li> bank change accounts. File insurance claims. Check on mortgages, credit or policies related to work, as well. </li> <li> Notifier social security, business associates, employees, organizations, banks, automatic saving, credit cards, bonds and securities, real estate securities and automatic journal, home insurance and personal needs. </li> <li> Stay in charge of your own life. Do not let the kids take over </li> </ol> <p> <b> Tips :. </b> </p> <ol> <li> <p> Avoid hasty decisions ... wait a year before selling the house, moving, or make major purchases. It is important to let go and move on with your life, but give yourself time. </p> </li> <li> Allow time to get some of these things. If it is difficult to do, or a decision is hard to do, then wait. You will know when the time is right. </li> <li> Do not make the bills you are not sure until you check their authenticity. Keep out of paying medical bills until they are all in </li> </ol> <p> <b> What you need: .. </b> </p> <ul> <li> The belief in yourself </li> <li> Time. </li> </ul> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-30036773291157173182017-01-20T21:04:00.000-08:002017-01-20T21:04:07.040-08:00Companionate marriageCompanionate marriage - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:132.667%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/L/w/P/83375841.jpg" alt="Photo: Joe Raedle / Getty Images - Photo: Joe Raedle / Getty Images" width="300" height="398" class="" data-description="Companionate Marriage: The Obamas in Miami, Florida on October 21, 08." > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> Obama in Miami, Florida, October 21 08. <span class="credit"> Photo: Joe Raedle / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> marriage expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <p> <strong> definition: </strong> A companionate marriage is based on the joint with common interests in their careers and children. They also have a shared social network that includes their in-laws and mutual friends. Spouses in companionate marriages believe in the equality of men and women believe that their roles in marriage are interchangeable. </p> <p> The two individuals in a self companionate marriage need awareness and self-confidence for the marriage to be successful. Without trust, friendship, commitment and common values, a companionate marriage can be difficult to maintain. </p> <blockquote> "In the heart of a companionate marriage is friendship and trust and belief that both partners have equal responsibility in all areas of marriage. they share the economic burden and raising children, and they believe that the needs and sexual desires of both partners must be clearly defined and respected. <p> they also recognize that when children are young and career issues are pressing, their own needs as individuals should be placed on the back burner These couples know that people living side by side the experience inevitable conflicts that must be faced openly They understand that mutual commitment is what keeps the marriage together "<br/> Source: ... <em> the good marriage: how and why love lasts </em> by Judith S . Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee, page 155 <br/> </p> </blockquote> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> </p> <p> <strong> pronunciation: </strong> Kuhm- pan-yuh-nit mar-ij </p> <p> <strong> Alternate Spellings: </strong> companionate marriage, </p> <p> <strong> Examples: </strong> ". Companionate marriage is the most common form of marriage among younger couples "<br/> Source: <em> good marriage: how and why love lasts </em> by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee, page 22 </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-86379720812974133132017-01-20T18:03:00.000-08:002017-01-20T18:03:05.522-08:00How to rebuild your life after the death of your spouseHow to rebuild your life after the death of your spouse - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/T/g/173299104.jpg" alt="Senior woman placing flowers on grave in cemetery - altrendo images/Stockbyte/Getty Images" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="How to Rebuild Your Life After the Death of Your Spouse" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> altrendo images / Stockbyte / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> August 13, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> One day you are married. The next day you are single, alone and in mourning. It will happen to one of you. Nothing is forever. The key is that you will need to know how to travel on the rough passage through a maze of information, decisions, forms to fill out, shock, loneliness, anger, confusion, fear, broken heart and depression. However, it can also be accepted and new beginnings. </p> <blockquote> <p> "Everybody will eventually lose everything they have ever loved or cared for. That is the truth of life itself ... But our pain is not just the loss of a loved one or facing our own mortality. Whether the loss of a job, a marriage, a dream, or our youth, we all had our hearts broken. everyone has lost our innocence, and made mistakes and hurt and were harmed along the way. we all have our individual stories of when, where, how, what, and our heartbreaks .. Each of our stories is unique and tenderly yet all of us have a history ... the pain is the human condition, the bond that binds us all together. " David Treadway, Ph.D., "Good Grief: Celebrating the pain of our lives." on PsychologyToday.com (2012) </p> </blockquote> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <blockquote> "Everyone experiences loss differently, and the last thing people need when they are in the terrible pain is to feel that they are doing something wrong because they can not find a way to feel better. remembering that sometimes helps nothing can stop you blaming yourself in the midst of your pain. "<br/> Will Schwalbe," the loss of a loved: How to Get Through It "on HuffingtonPost.com (2013) </blockquote> <h3> death Steps </h3> <p> Elisabeth Kubler-Ross wrote several years ago on the "stages of grief": denial (shock), negotiation, anger, depression and acceptance it is important to realize that these steps are not a particular order and some people can. being in a stage they thought they had already conquered. </p> <p> These steps are a normal part of grief. do not let yourself get caught up in having to do things in a certain period of time . you will know the right time to empty the drawers and closets and deal with personal items such as wallets and handbags. Wait until you are ready </p> <blockquote> "and my first article on the list of each day is: Wake up .. If I can check that off, I've done something and then go to corporate life and trying to honor the memory of those I love who are no longer here. "Will Schwalbe," The loss of a loved one: How to Get Through It "on HuffingtonPost.com (2013) </blockquote> <h3> It's okay to cry </h3> <p> The pain is necessary way. are tears. Crying will not help. Crying is a healing device. Dr. Joyce Brothers tears described as "emotional first aid." </p> <p> tears contain leucine-enkephalin, which is one of painkillers . natural brain tears also contain a hormone that promotes the secretion of tears. - prolactin women have more prolactin than men, which is one of the reasons why they may cry more than men </p>. <h3> Dealing with others </h3> <p> Many people are uncomfortable with death. therefore, they will say and do stupid things. Try to be forgiving of those people who have no idea what to do or say. they often do not realize that it is okay to mention the name of your spouse, or you look in the eyes, or give you a hug. </p> <h3> Holidays and Special </h3> <p> Your life is changed and changing. The schedule will have a different effect on you as your wedding anniversary, Valentine's Day, special events, birthdays and holidays come around. These dates should be treated. Plan ahead for them and do what you want to do. Do not be manipulated by family and friends. </p> <h3> Looking Ahead </h3> <p> Dr. Joyce Brothers wrote in his book, <em> Widowed </em> "And if there should ever be another good man I share my life, there will still be this empty corner of my soul. I know what I had and what I lost. I hope I will not spend the rest of my life alone. But if I do, I will not be sorry for myself. life goes on, and I'm ready to join the parade again. "</p> <p> census of the United States indicates that on average, widowers remarry in 3 years of the death of their wives and widows remarry within 5 years. Experts say it is important, however, to marry for love ... not because you are alone. </p> <h3> Books for widows and widowers </h3> <p> <em> * Updated article by Marni Feuerman </em> </p> <p> <strong> WHY NOT YOU FOR MARRIAGE WEEK EMAIL NEWSLETTER? </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-92051610720385995782017-01-20T15:02:00.000-08:002017-01-20T15:02:05.898-08:00What is true love? How do you know you're in love?What is true love? How do you know you're in love? - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:150%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/L/t/N/COU_031.jpg" alt="Photo: Stockbyte / Getty Images - Photo: Stockbyte / Getty Images" width="300" height="450" class="" data-description="What is True Love? How Do You Know You Are in Love?" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Photo: Stockbyte / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <p> <strong> definition: </strong> mature love is the kind of love you see in the long term marriages. When you are together because you want to be together and not because you need to be with each other, you have a mature love. </p> <p> Signs of mature love include the acceptance, emotional support, commitment, peace, respect, compassion, kindness, friendship and consideration. </p> <blockquote> "love is a time and life. It is looking for him in a room and feel that if I do not spend the rest of my life with him, I'll have missed the boat. love working together, laughing together, grow together. it is respect for other people and everyone worries about, but it is sometimes difficult to love his kinfolk and friends. love is want to shout from the rooftops successes, big and small each other. love is eager to wipe tears when failure comes. love is loving the feeling of the other. He complains have children together, as they are the exclamation point love is love laugh, especially in the middle of a quarrel "<br/> Source:.. Liz Carpenter. <em> Getting Better All the Time. </em> </blockquote> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p> Scientific research proves that the brain activity of couples in mature relationship is very similar to the brain activity of those newly in love. Love can and lasts </p> <p> <strong> AKA: </strong> True love, true love, one and only love of my life, beloved </p> <p> <strong> Examples: </strong> John Gottman. "Someone else's love story will never be yours true love is woven to honor and unique understanding gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities of each other. " Source: The Gottman Institute Facebook page. . 7/2013 </p> <p> Shauna Springer :. "What feels like love in the advanced stage of cocaine does not compare to the love that couples can enjoy the final stage of an exceptional wedding if you doubt that this is true, consider the difference between the dizzying feeling of being in love with someone you've known for a short time and the feelings of love you have for someone who has been your partner for walking 60 last years of your life the person who has been with you through thick and thin, who believed in you and invested in you "<br/> Source :. Shauna Springer, Ph.D." Soul Mates Do Exist - But not in the way we usually think ... "PsychologyToday.com 28/07/2012 </p> <p>.." Kathy Freston, author of <em> the One: Finding Soul Mate Love and Making It Last </em> said the clearest sign that you are in the right relationship is that 'you love that you are over when you are with that person. "So in the end, it is all about finding the best of itself, does not get lost in another about finding someone you want with, not someone to save you from yourself" <br/> Source: .. Arianna Huffington. <em> become the brave ... in love, work and life </em>. 06. p. 53. </p> <p> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-35738234109832646592017-01-19T21:00:00.000-08:002017-01-19T21:00:36.299-08:00Tips for surviving your retirementTips for surviving your retirement - husband <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/j/n/retirement.jpg" alt="surviving retirement - Jose Luis Pelaez Inc/Creative RF/Getty" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="Tips to Survive Your Husband's Retirement" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Jose Luis Pelaez Inc RF / Creative / Getty </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> April 5, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> <em> <strong> Co-Author: Nora Hall </strong> </em> </p> <p> Are you petrified of retirement for your spouse? Are you afraid that it will cling to you day after day not knowing what to do with himself? Or, do you think it can become moody and full of anxiety with all that new found time and freedom? </p> <p> The retreat will be difficult for men and women, who are not quite prepared for the transition. In general, men have defined themselves by their careers with other roles, such as the father or husband secondary. On the other hand, women have held a variety of roles, regardless of their work outside the home, and are generally more social than men. So it is no surprise that retirement can make men feel lost, alone, more dependent on their spouse. This, in turn, can lead to a new type of marital stress. </p> <h3> <strong> Here are eight tips for women to help them survive the retirement of their husbands :. </strong> </h3> <ol> <li> <strong> Remember, retirement is not for sissies </strong> pension offers a new lifestyle! But it takes planning, courage and determination to create a fulfilling retirement and marriage. </li> </ol> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <ol class="cb-split"> <li> <strong> Dream your wildest dreams and plan ahead. </strong> For years, you've heard about the importance of establishing a retirement financial plan. However, couples who spend a good amount of time to plan how they want to spend their retirement generally report that it has contributed more to their happiness that their financial plan done. Recognizing your dreams is an important aspect of this aspect of planning. Although some of these dreams are too costly or difficult to continue, they still produce an opportunity for creative planning. Couples often find that these activities are accessible, sometimes in a less costly or ambitious fashion, and fill all the same. </li> <li> <strong> Identify what you enjoy doing together. </strong> Some couples think they have too much ease now that they are retired. Sharing meaningful activities that you both enjoy this reduces tension and increases your pleasure to spend time together. Also, think about all the new activities you want to try on your own or with others. </li> <li> <strong> Create a personal space in your home for each partner and allow time to pursue personal interests. </strong> We all need space and time to be alone or to pursue our own interests. Having even a small area than other aspects of the person as the place of their partner and the time without guilt to participate in these individual interests reduces tension in the relationship. Looks like a "man cave" is not such a bad idea after all! </li> <li> <strong> Keep courageous conversations where partners feel comfortable identifying their unique interests and concerns about this new stage of life. </strong> partners who do not share their hopes or fears for this new stage of life often struggle to understand the actions or attitudes of others. for example, a husband whose life was wrapped around his work or forced into early retirement may be angry that he does not. unless he helps his wife to understand these feelings, she is likely to feel angry behavior, it can demonstrate . communication has always been important throughout your wedding and it is even now. </li> <li> <strong> Do not say "never" or "you always." </strong> If or when one partner accused surfaces argument implies that the lack of prosecution or guilt, not the underlying reasons why the partner is disturbed. It is much more effective to tell your partner why a particular action is a problem rather than an accusation. For example, it probably did take the garbage in the last week or two. Hearing you never take the garbage will mostly likely only produce defensiveness. </li> <li> <strong> Take time to listen to what your spouse is really saying. </strong> Too often, especially when there are tensions, we tend to think we heard what the other said. Otherwise, we do not listen at all. Stable relationships take a lot of empathy, which is reached when we feel pain, concerns or desires of the other. If you got so far in your marriage, you enjoy the most likely prospects for each. Remember when your spouse is retired. </li> <li> <strong> Find reasons to be good to each other. </strong> Kindness is contagious. It is more difficult to stay angry when another person is nice to you, and kindness helps deepen the relationship as couples grow in their love and appreciation for each other. But compliments and "thank yous" flow from your lips often. </li> </ol> <p> The retreat did not mean to ruin it for you wedding. This does not mean a major transition. With stress comes transitions and changes. There are ways to make this as smooth as possible so that you also get your well-deserved pleasure on this phase in your life and marriage. </p> <p> <strong> shopping AMAZON: <em> Survive pension your husband: A Light-Hearted Look at the joys and tribulations of living with a retired husband </em> by Nora Hall </strong> </p> <p> <em> <strong> KEEP YOUR WEDDING ON TRACK ... SIGN UP FOR THE WEEK EMAIL NEWSLETTER! </strong> </em> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-70083361028304494942017-01-19T12:01:00.000-08:002017-01-19T12:01:04.634-08:00Yes, you can die of a broken heartYes, you can die of a broken heart - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:78.961%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/o/i/174641071_large.jpg" alt="Broken Heart - Photo: Crisma/Collection E+/Getty Images" width="385" height="304" class="" data-description="Yes, You Can Die of a Broken Heart" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> Photo: Crisma / Series E + / Getty Images </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/275.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Sheri Stritof </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Sheri Stritof </p> <p> Every now and then I read a notice in the newspaper about an elderly widow or widower die shortly after the death of their longtime partner. Parents often believe that their grieving parents or grandparents have died of a broken heart. </p> <p> Is this really possible? Can you die of a broken heart? According to Dr. Holly S. Andersen wowOwow, "The answer is yes. A traumatic rupture, an extreme argument or experience the death of a loved one can obtain the release of stress hormones that can trigger a heart attack in people prone to them, induce a life-threatening arrhythmia or cause a syndrome that mimics a heart attack in healthy hearts. "</p> <p> This is the" true story "behind the stress cardiomyopathy is sometimes called syndrome broken heart. Another name for the syndrome is Takotsubo cardiomyopathy. Learn more about how you can actually die of a broken heart. </p> <p> I have received numerous emails and comments from people who experience extreme pain after the loss of a loved one. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> If you know emotionally that you have a broken heart, do not ignore the physical symptoms related to your heart. This could be serious. Talk to your doctor about your symptoms. </p> <blockquote> "In addition to experience the strain of stress, emotional overload, and not taking care of yourself properly, it is also possible for the plaintiffs to be at higher risk of health problems . Various studies have shown that survivors may have increased chances of suffering from heart disease, cancer, depression, alcoholism and suicide, said Dan Leviton ... He notes, however, that not everyone has a higher risk of disease because they can cope well with losing "<br/>. Source: Dulce Zamora. "The death of a broken heart" Medicinenet.com 11/24/03 </blockquote> <blockquote> Shauna Springer:... "One of the characteristics of couples who have passed into the" soul mate phase of their marriage to bless and inspire others through the way they treat each other and those who incessantly. around them another feature is the effect of 'er. "- when two people become one, it is often the case that the death of one is closely followed by the death of the other This is a nonsense not just romantic propagated by Hollywood film-. manufacturers - what actually happens with considerable frequency for closely related pairs "<br/> Source: Shauna Springer, Ph.D." Soul Mates Do Exist - But not in the way we usually think ... "PsychologyToday. com. 28/07/2012. </blockquote> <p> If you experience the death of your spouse, one of the most important things to remember is that you must take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally . This means getting regular sleep, eating a healthy diet, drink enough water, exercise, and have fun and laughter in your life. This also means that you need to know the symptoms of a heart attack and not wait to call 911 in an emergency </p> <blockquote> additional advice of Vice President Joe Biden. "just remember two things," he said. "Keep thinking that your husband or wife would have you do. Keep thinking what it is, and keep memory of these children of yours, or it the rest of their life, blood of my blood, bone of my bones, because, people, it can and will get better, "he said. "There will come a day, I you, and your parents promise, as well, when the thought of your son or daughter or your husband or wife brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to the eye" he said. "this will happen My prayer for you is that day will come sooner or later, but the only thing I have more experience than you in is this: ... I tell you it will come" <br/> Source:... Devin Dwyer. "Joe Biden Reflects on Huge Grief after the loss of wife, daughter" ABCNews.go.com 25/05/2012 <br/> Note :. Vice President Joe Biden lost his wife and daughter in a car accident in 1972. Five years later, he married Jill Jacobs </blockquote> <p> for all those who have lost a loved one, those who posted your grief stories here and those of you who mourn in private, please know that my heart is with you. </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2390799279355163823.post-12518327901068515052017-01-18T17:59:00.000-08:002017-01-18T17:59:01.316-08:00What science tells us about LoveWhat science tells us about Love - <div class="content-img-wrapper"> <figure class="content-img right-gutter img-5"> <div class="content-img-wrapper img-5"> <div class="img-container" style="padding-bottom:66.494%; height:0; overflow:hidden; position:relative"> <img src="http://f.tqn.com/y/marriage/1/W/k/n/photo-1453230645768-7ecb0653013d.jpg" alt="Couple holding hands - unsplash.com" width="385" height="256" class="" data-description="What Science Tells Us About Love" > </div> </div> <figcaption class="content-img-subtitle"> <div class="content-img-caption"> <span class="credit pull-right"> unsplash.com </span> </div> </figcaption> <div class="by-line by-line-inline byline-left-rail row hide-tablet"> <div class="col col-2"> <img data-original="http://f.tqn.com/d/g/bw/140014.gif" width="50" height="50" data-load="lazy" /> <div class="by-line-info" itemprop="author" itemscope itemtype="http://schema.org/Person"> <div class="muted"> By <span class="heading" itemprop="name"> Marni Feuerman </span> </div> <div class="site-expert"> Marriage Expert </div> </div> </div> </div> </figure> </div> <div class="col-push-2 col-push-tablet-1 content-responsive"> <p class="heading by-line-top hide-desktop"> By Marni Feuerman </p> <div class="published"> update <span itemprop="dateModified"> April 8, 2016 </span>. </div> <p> There are many chemicals in our body and brain, including hormones and neurotransmitters, which make up the neurochemical sense of love. There are two primary parts to love, which are the attraction and attachment. Each involves a different "chemical cocktail". Some areas of the brain light when you experience love in stages. </p> <p> <strong> Which brain areas are involved in love? </strong> </p> <p> The brain is split into left and right hemispheres, each with different functions. The right hemisphere is responsible for feelings, creativity, imagination and holistic thinking. The left hemisphere is responsible for logic, reasoning, planning and analytical thinking. It is said in science that the right hemisphere is the domain of love. </p> <p> We know from brain imaging studies that two main areas of the brain become active when someone is experiencing romantic love. The first are the homes in the media insula (also associated with instinct), and the other is the anterior cingulate cortex, which produces euphoric feelings. </p> <div class="gpt native"> <div id="native" class="adsense wrapper"> </div> </div> <p class="cb-split"> Together, these brain areas are responsible for the feeling of being in love a very happy and natural thing. </p> <p> in the early stages of love, other areas of the brain such as the caudate nucleus and the ventral tegmental areas become active. These areas are flooded with dopamine, which is what makes love to feel as "high". Dopamine is also called the "love drug" as it may seem addictive. </p> <p> <strong> Which brain chemicals involved in attraction? </strong> </p> <p> The first stages of love are filled with infatuation, lust and desire. Lust is regulated by our primary sex hormones, estrogen and testosterone. Desire involved our whole body because it contains a rush of adrenaline (epinephrine), the same chemicals involved in the fight or flight response. A similar physiological reaction occurs which increases heart rate and alertness, dilates pupils and stimulates the sweat glands </p> <p> When you experience romantic love, there is an increase of three central neurotransmitter :. Serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine. Serotonin surges influence the feelings of infatuation. Dopamine is also released. This influences the integration of emotion and thought. It also stimulates the hypothalamus to release of sex hormones. Dopamine is also triggered by excitement, novelty and risk. Dopamine and norepinephrine together also produces euphoric and addictive feelings. </p> <p> <strong> Which brain chemicals are involved in the attachment? </strong> </p> <p> After the first "fall in love" stage, people begin to feel more relaxed and comfortable in the presence of their partner. When the relationship more stable, other brain chemicals such as oxytocin and vasopressin, begin to take over. </p> <p> oxytocin, also known as the "cuddle hormone" is released after sex and physical condition. He is involved in feelings of closeness and intimacy. Oxytocin is released by touch, like kissing, caressing and hugging as well. It is also published by talking to our partners which is why communication is essential to the long term success of a relationship. In fact, oxytocin is fundamental to the maintenance of life romantic attachments. </p> <p> vasopressin, also known as the "hormone of monogamy," couples influences to be faithful to each other. Animal studies have shown that inhibition of vasopressin causes couples to become less dedicated the each other. </p> <p> There is no doubt that love is a biologically driven emotion. the concoction of these chemicals varies according to which a phase relationship person is experiencing. the chemical wellness such as serotonin and dopamine dominates the early stages. the subsequent steps of the deepest love within a relationship are characterized by bonding, intimacy and often monogamy. at this stage, the brain releases oxytocin and vasopressin. We can conclude science that love is not a mystery after all and we have lots of information on the duration lasting and deeply affectionate relationships are sustained over the long term. </p> <p> <strong> STAY UP TO DATE ON LOVE AND MARRIAGE ... SUBSCRIBE TO WEEKLY NEWSLETTER! </strong> </p> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08636095575648030110noreply@blogger.com0